We have been educated to be self-centred in many ways. Of course, you need to have your own things, for your personal use. And certainly, we all want to have our loved ones near us.
But have you noticed how desperate we get when they go away, even for a little while?
I believe most of us have made some crazy things to get the attention of someone we are interested in or, to keep them by our side.
Jealousy is a big illness, it has caused big tragedies in the history of humanity. It transforms us and affects our whole body and soul.
But something I have noticed and discussed with many people from different backgrounds in life, is the futility of falling into its trap.
You could give jealousy total control of your heart and your whole personality changes (for the worst). I have seen wonderful and kind people turn into unrecognisable monsters, just for giving jealousy the power to change their behaviour.
Some people, especially women, enjoy receiving a little jealousy from their partners, as a way of reassurance of their interest in them. But the problem is that this feeling grows and gets out of control very quickly. Causing an obsessive behaviour that, in most cases, ends up in a bad finale.
From divorce to murder, this negative and strong feeling can change your life for ever.
But once you begin to understand how this Life works, then you become less eager to do unusual things to keep people and things by your side.
It is my own experience, that whoever is meant to be in your life, will always stay near you, no matter what external factors send them away from you. What it is meant to be, it´s meant to be. And no matter what you say or do to bring them back to your side, if they are not meant to be in your story, they will never be in the list of permanent characters.
But once you give people and things the freedom to stay or leave with total freedom, then you will never have to act crazy or force circumstances to keep them tied to your side.
They can travel to the other side of the world, they can totally disappear from your life, but if they are a part of it, nothing will keep them away for too long. One way or the other, they will come back and share this Life lesson by your side.
So, give yourself permission to be free, by keeping in mind that what is yours, cannot be taken away from you for too long, that everyone and everything will arrive to your life in the best moment for you and for them and, that you have no need to feel jealous anymore.
If someone does not want to continue their journey by your side, it only means that you have both learnt what you had to learn from each other and now it is time to allow others to come and share the path and lessons with you.
Some people come and go in the blink of an eye, others stay the whole journey, but we all, have what and who we need here with us right now. What’s next, will arrive in due time.