When was the last time you looked at yourself in the mirror and liked what you saw?
I was joking yesterday with my daughter about a Japanese legend called “口裂け女 kuchisake onna” (slit-mouthed woman) it’s about a woman wearing a surgical mask who appears to children and ask them: “Am I pretty?” If the child answered “no” she killed him with a pair of scissors she always carries with her, and if the child answered “yes” then she removed the mask and they could see that her mouth was slit from ear to ear and then she asked: “What about now?” If the child answers no, he/she will be cut in half. If the child answers yes, then she will slit his/her mouth like hers.
My daughter asked me how could you escape from her if either way she would kill you. So I told her some versions of the legend say that if you answer her questions with ambiguous answers then she would get confused and you could then escape.
We agreed jokingly, that we would answer: “the beauty is in the eyes of the beholder” “You are pretty if you think you are” etc.
But after that we were commenting about the way we see ourselves and how that could influence the perception of the others. A friend of mine who was an international model considered herself very ugly looking when she was in high school, but one day she stood in front to the mirror and decided to find “her good spots”, she realised that her eyes were beautiful and that her body was well proportioned and could be even better if she worked on it a little, she just decided to find the beauty in her and then work on the “soft spots”, so with that determination she found her way up to the covers of the main fashion magazines in the world.
Every time she met a girl with a lack of confidence, she was fast to find her best spots and gave her advice to “work on the weaknesses”. I actually knew of two cases of low esteemed girls who end up in famous catwalks and magazines thanks to my friend’s advises.
Could you start looking at you in the mirror a little longer so you can find even more good spots in your physical body so you can have a stronger self esteem? There are already too many people telling you all the time what your “defects” are so, work on your behalf and realise how beautiful you are and start broadcasting that energy to the world so they see them more easily.
I am not saying this just to pump up your ego, and increase your vanity, I just want you to feel better so that self love transforms into self confidence, gratitude for your human vessel and then those feelings remind you how wonderful you are, how loved you are and how ready you are for taking the next step to a higher new level that is waiting for you right now.
You are gorgeous and perfect, and I know that because the Universe only creates perfection.