I have met many people who are convinced they are what they are not. And when you hold an idea in your mind long enough, it becomes part of your reality.
The problem is, that when you are holding in your mind the wrong concept, then the outside world will cause you more harm than good.
For instance, I know a friend whose parents told him all the time he was not good at math. They repeated him all the time he was a failure in math and other sciences. Fortunately for him and for many of us, he ended up listening to his inner voice that always told him he really liked math and he ended up being a wonderful math teacher who loves spreading his knowledge to his students and has been teaching several generations the magic of math.
Even I fell to the old tale of math being difficult and boring. I remember my family talking about how difficult math was and my class mates were complaining all the time about how boring it was.
It was until I had to study math on my own for a difficult exam and I was allowed to study at my own pace and rhythm, that I discovered how beautiful math is and how pleasant and fun it can be. Now I like to solve equations as a pastime when I can find a free moment.
I know sometimes things look darker than they really are, but if you cannot find your way around at this particular moment, just remember that it takes to know darkness in order to appreciate light. That you need to experience stillness, in order to appreciate the sound and that you have to lose someone, sometimes even for a short period of time, in order to value their presence. So, all these experiences have a very important reason for you to meet them in your path.
You need to face the opposites, so you can set your parameters and be able to change your perspective many times so you can see as much as you can, and not only one side.
Being able to see what you are not, will bring you closer to see the real you and know for certain what you are capable of doing.
Most times your “real problem” is to observe the wrong side of yourself, to have believed for too long the wrong version of who you really are and to have accepted that you were actually limited by those beliefs.
The good news is that you have got the power to change all that and that life entails change all the time. So, nothing is static and eternal, therefore these things that seem to be there to bother you, are just there to help you change your old perspective and to remind you that you are about to get better now.
Because remember: “The best is yet to come.”