Recently I met with a friend of mine who is well known for his enthusiasm and total commitment to what he does.  He looked tired and a little gloomy.

After the typical exchange of salutations, I asked him what was wrong with him: “You look so different today, are you bored?” I said jokingly.

“Yes, I am bored of everything” he answered me sadly.

“What is wrong? You are not like that” I asked him a little worried.

“You know me, I always try to do my best with a smile in my face, I sometimes do for others what I don’t even do for myself.” He kept complaining.

“I have done my best for many people, but when I need them they turn their back to me, they have completely forgotten all what I have done for them in the past. These are upsetting times people just don’t care anymore, I feel lonelier than ever.”

I looked at him totally understanding his feelings, I believe we all have been there at some point.

I remained in silence for a while while he was ordering his thoughts.

“I have learned to do things not for the credits, but for my own Joy” I added after while.

“I don’t do things expecting an applause” he said aggressively defending his position.

“I know, I was just remembering when I used to wish a good day to others expecting for an answer, when they didn’t answer back to me I felt offended. Nowadays I said good morning to people to wish them a good day, because I feel compelled to do so. I just don’t care anymore if they answer me back or not, I just wish them a good day anyway. Just because I feel good doing so. “

“Yes, you are right I should continue being like I have always been, I am going to keep doing things exactly as I have always done. I enjoy being the way I am. I do not need validation or approval from anyone.” He said with a different attitude.

Do your best because it is the right thing to do, do your best because it feels good, do your best because it is your true nature.

People will always criticise you, in front of you or at your back but that is not of your concern. Compete against your own marks, compete against your own achievements, reach your own goals and dreams and pay no attention to what others are saying or opining about your performance.  The only opinion that really should matter to you is your own.

You might fool others, but you will never be able to fool yourself. That is something you will have to live with for the rest of your life.

Let the achievements of others be your inspiration, not the cause for your lack of self-value.

Do things right not to impress others, but to be a better you every day.








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