I remember one day, when I was a little child, that I was afraid of losing my toys, I felt very troubled with that thought. My mother asked me why I was so upset, and I told her I was afraid of growing up, because I loved playing with my toys and I had never saw an adult playing with toys. (I was so wrong then).
My mother smiled and told me that I would not need my toys as a grown up, and that Life always gives you something in return.
I could not understand that at that time, but I felt a little reassured to hear that.
Some years later when I was in my early adolescence, I felt the same “fear of loss” when a very close friend of mine moved abroad.
I thought the end of the world had arrived for me, and that nothing would be the same anymore, I would never meet anyone like him and nobody else would share my hobbies, tastes and adventures again.
But, Life brought me new people, new places and new perspectives. I was not left adrift once more.
Every time I have “lost” something or someone, Life has brought me not a replacement, because that is not even possible, but it has opened new paths before me and these changes have been always great!
The real problem for me, has been “accepting” the change.
It is never easy, the closest this person, event or thing was to me, the hardest it was to let it go. But in the end, I can tell you looking back from my present perspective, it was always for the best.
There are times when we “lose” people, circumstances and things all at the same time, and it is the hardest test, we resist that “loss” and we feel that Life is unfair to us. But if you analyse now, most of your “losses” have brought always new and more positive aspects to your life. Sometimes we do not want to see them that way, but in the end of the day it is so.
Probably if you had continued living the same experiences, you would have missed the evolution, the enhancement, the experience that we all need to grow.
Even when a loved one leaves this plane of existence, and everything seems lost and gloomy. There are things that the Universe bring to us and then, and only then, we can begin to learn and experience new things. Not before. And believe it of not. It is for our own good and growth.
I am not saying everything will run smoother and better. Sometimes that “loss” changes our world completely and we lose for a while, our “sense of orientation” but remember that it does not matter what happens to you, but how you react to it. And this reaction will accelerate your growth, or it will slow you down, that depends on you and only you.
I know how hard it is to lose someone or something, I have been there many times, but now, I give my best to try and look for the “right side of the lesson” and although I cannot say I always find it fast, I am getting better now.
Once you manage to find the “bright side of things” your inner strength grows, and things begin to change around you.
When you find the “blessing in disguise of this loss” you are ready to go to the next level.
I insist, it is not easy and do not expect to achieve it from one day to the next. It takes time, it takes a process, live it, go through it and grow.
Once you master that challenge, you will understand more easily, why you must learn to leave them behind and continue your path to growth.
You are totally capable to do so now.