For many years I believed in the standard model of happiness, you know, what everybody tells you that you need to have, wear and live to be a real happy person.
Of course, I was never able to reach those standards, therefore I believed I was not a good person.
If I was not able to accomplish all those requirements, then I should be a loser. After all I was able to see many achievers around me. And if I was the only one who was living in mediocrity then something should be wrong with me.
Those where very difficult years for me.
I couldn’t understand quite well, how was it possible that many of my friends and acquaintances were leaving a perfect life, while I was really struggling to keep my pieces together. Continue reading
Caution: heavy rambling ahead….
And suddenly I looked again, and there it was. I had got what I wanted for so long, but instead of being grateful for having it now, my mind was already wishing for something else.
And the worst part is that I was not even enjoying the new, I was beginning to feel the lack of what I did not yet have. What kind of craziness was this?
I could look around me right now and see numerous things I had longed for.
After a closer look, I realised that now I have many things I had wished for years, and going back in time, most of them I never thought I could have.
And I am not talking only about material things, there are people, situations, events etc., that looked so “impossible” to have back then, and now they are a reality, they have become a regular and normal part of my existence. Continue reading
There is nothing more difficult than trying to talk with someone who is angry. You ask them to listen to what you have to say, but their anger do not let them listen, really listen, they actually are not really interested in what you have to say, all they want to do is to take that awful feeling out of their system.
Even if they let you speak for a few seconds, they will immediately start talking back to you, they won’t listen to your reasons because they won’t keep that anger inside and need to get it out of them. Even if you are right they cannot see it.
There is no point to talk with someone who is blinded by their bad temper and, who in the same way as an ill person does, is looking at the world through their toxins.
But guess what? Sometimes you are that blind mad person. Continue reading
I woke up feeling uneasy. I couldn´t understand why I was feeling that way, because there was no apparent reason for that mood.
At the beginning I thought I was feeling like that because of a bad dream I could not remember. But as the morning advanced, I understood that feeling was the result of a long chain of events that had finally collapsed upon my shoulders, causing this gloomy mood on me.
While trying to find the cause of this awful feeling, I realised that I was digging into all the negative events that appeared in my life in a while. As I was trying to find in each one of them the “real culprit” for my actual temper, my soul felt more and more depressed.
But the worst part was, that with every event I recalled, I felt more and more dejected. This was not helping me at all. Continue reading
Some days are difficult to forget. If you had a day full of wonderful times, that day becomes a memory of a lifetime. If you had a day full of problems and bitter moments, that day will too become a memory of a lifetime.
Happily, those days are very rare. Usually our days are a mix of good and bad incidents.
The only difference is that most people are used to focus on those events that make them feel bad. We keep them in a special compartment in our mind and it seems we feel a strange “pleasure” by bringing them back to memory frequently in reunions that end up being “adversity competitions” where the one who has suffered the most wins.
I know playing the victim help some people to bring more attention upon them, and yes, who does not enjoy the “15 minutes of fame” from time to time. Continue reading
I have tried to sleep more hours to see if my weariness would fade away. But I kept feeling tired, with no energy whatsoever. When your inner self is tired, all the physical rest and sleeping will not make a difference.
There are days when you wake up and life hurts, therefore you resent it and will reflect it in your physical body. And of course it will take you longer to stand on your feet, but any way you have to do it.
You see, it is easier for our brain to recall bad memories. We usually remember more the bad events than the good ones, so we keep them in the first row of our conscious mind and that could be one of the main reasons why we keep repeating our mistakes and manifesting our worst fears faster. Continue reading
In my humble opinion there is nothing more frustrating than waiting.
Yes, I confess: I am very impatient. I hate having to wait for a long time. I usually like things to be there, ready for me instead of having to kill time while I receive what I want.
And, of course, this has brought me many headaches in my life throughout the years.
Specially when things are going wrong, I would like to discover a magic spell to make things change course immediately.
But, as you already know, this is not possible and to understand why things should be that way, is something most times I am not very good at. Continue reading
There are days when you just cannot find the Light in your life and everything looks so dark and sinister.
With all the bad news inundating the Internet and the public media, those tragic stories from family and friends who are always so eager to share them with us, even before asking how we are doing. The strangers in the street who love to tell you their lives and recent tragedies to see if they can find a friendly ear, that allows them to discharge their bad energy accumulated in their soul for so long. All that added to your own personal emotional baggage!
There are days, when you have to decide creating your own Light in the middle of a lot of induced darkness. Continue reading
In my younger years, I had always seen economics, the subject, with disdain because I considered it not a science but a topic of “personal opinions and interpretations.” Nowadays I have reached the conclusion that most of our believes are a product of our own personal opinions and interpretations, although it seems we are not very aware of that.
I questioned a friend of mine, who is a very well-respected economist, if he could give me an example of economics theory applied on our daily life, and while I was not expecting a great answer, his example made a profound impression on me.
He looked at me with a relaxed look in his eyes and said: “One of the things that I had applied in my life very often is the law of the sunk costs.”
I looked at him perplexed waiting for a clearer explanation. Continue reading
Re-learning to be relaxed and calmed is one of the most fundamental, yet difficult thing to do nowadays.
If you live in a big city, all you have to do is to look around you and the sight of people everywhere makes you feel uneasy. Or you can watch the news every day, it has the same result.
Everybody is rushing and minding their own business. I have seen people passing by an elderly person who just fell, and they do not even stop to try to give him a hand. They do not even look at them anymore.
I do not want to start the: “In my time, people were more concerned and kinder…” monologue, but I am really impressed by the way society is heading nowadays.
No matter what country I visit, I am seeing a very radical change in people all over the world, and I cannot say I am very happy about that difference. Continue reading