Sometimes we look up at other people thinking their lives are really great and worth imitating. We see just what they allow us, great houses, cars, expensive gadgets, etc.
We believe they have a wonderful life and we wish we could be as lucky as they are.
We see people we call achievers and read about their great success in business, sports, politics etc. We would love to do things as good as they do.
We tend to idealise those people and really believe that we are very far from those overachievers. We wouldn’t dream to compare with them and sometimes we even feel happy if we could do a quarter of what they can do. And actually that is the real problem. Continue reading →
They say that we should be clear where are we heading to, in order to get to the place, we wish to reach. And that is true.
I am sure, most of the time you leave your home with a destination in your mind. When you take the underground, a cab or get into your car, you have a definite end point in your mind. Otherwise you will make you and other people mad very easily. Especially cab drivers, they like to know where they will take you to, instead of driving around like lost ants.
In life, it is considered a good practice to have goals to accomplish, places to go and people to love. And that is good as well.
The real problem comes when you have a “fixed mental image” of how things should happen. Continue reading →
She felt really down that morning. She had been trying to be strong for too long and that takes a lot of effort. Her strength was beginning to fade away and the despair was more than evident in her eyes.
She looked at me with the saddest eyes I have ever seen in my life. Her voice projected her inner state and after saying hello in a taciturn voice, she told me that she felt she could not bear it anymore.
Life had treated her unkindly and she has been going through a difficult period in all areas of her life.
She knew quite well, that she needed to change her attitude, thoughts and feelings so she could jump back on her feet once more. But this time she felt that was just too much for her to accomplish.
She asked me to give her just one aspect of her that could give her hope for the future.
“Tell me just one thing to make me feel strong once more” She said with a desperate voice. Continue reading →
One of the most difficult things we have to go through in this life is having to let go of things. Attachment is carved so deep into our soul that we actually feel like we own the entire universe.
That sense of ownership and competitiveness have been making real damage to our society for quite a long time now.
For example, we believe we own our children. Our sons and daughters are not ours, they are not our property. They have arrived to our life to teach us to be better and to evolve at the same time they receive our guidance and love. But they are independent of us and we need to stop treating them as if we owned their lives.
Another example is when we drive. We have forgotten that we are SHARING the streets with other people, we do not OWN the road, so we don’t need to use avenues, streets, motorways, etc., as if they belonged to us and we were the only ones with the right to use them. We all have the same right of transit. Continue reading →
We are hearing very often about detachment lately. Detachment to material things, to places, to people etc.
For most people, it is easier to detach themselves from individuals, food or places than to be the “victim” of the detachment.
You can train your mind to separate from a place, from a certain food or habit. A little more difficult for many is to “avoid” toxic people who are not helping us with our growth process.
Especially when the other people feel you are avoiding them for the wrong reasons. They might think that you are getting too “picky” or that you are being too selfish or that you simply do not care anymore for them.
There is nothing as scarier as losing a job, failing your marriage, finding out you have a bad illness, or feeling you are on your own.
It is so easy to be in the “spiritual path” when you have everything solved, when you have no emotional, economical or health problems that keep your serenity away. Then is when we can study and make retreats, meditate and do all rituals you want.
To be an armchair guru at those times is very easy and we see examples of that every day.
It is when we face a big problem or terrible situation, when we forget about all the things we have learnt and when we react as everyone else. When we are questioned about the things we have been studying all these years, we cannot remember all the theory we have been preaching about.
Despair enters our hearts once more and then we realise that everything we have been studying is not good at all. All was just wishful thinking.
I was talking to an older friend, about his life and the experience he has gained through the years.
As a child, I had the idea that life gives us experience through different events and that every old person was wise and experienced in all areas of life.
I always thought that someone who had been on this planet for many decades had been able to gather all the knowledge in the world, but that idea began to fade as I grew up and had to work with many old people.
My friend who has been on this Earth for a little more of 8 decades, was amazed with my concepts and told me that experience and strength were not dependent of the age but on endurance. Continue reading →
I was exhausted, the four hours walk to the pond in the middle of an uninhabited jungle had been difficult, but nothing compared to the way back.
Climbing back to the top of that valley was a daunting task for me, I was not very used to walk for so many hours in the outdoors, and the Sun was really at its peak hour, so I was really wishing to get back to the car and drive back home.
I had to take little rests from time to time and the closer to the top I got, the more frequent stops I made.
When I was about to reach the last tract, I was making my best effort to pull my body up when all I could see were a pair of perfectly polished shoes in front of my eyes. My stunned eyes kept going upwards just to observe very well ironed beige trousers, a white shirt and a smiling face who greeted me with a cheerful voice: “Did you enjoy the trip?”, he said. Continue reading →