Are we different?

I just received an email from a friend in Japan. She shares with me some of her hopes and fears and I was surprised to see how “similar” our dreams and problems were.

But why was I so surprised? I have been there and when I was in Japan, and actually after getting to know the people and customs there I was “accepted” in the community.  To me they were like anyone else and I think I was taken as one more in the bunch.

So where did I begin to think they could feel or experience life in a different way than I do?

Being now on the other side of the planet, when I hear about Japan is like listening from a different world.  But that is only an error in my perspective.

Distance is relative to the observer, just like time. Continue reading

Do not kill that feeling

I was in my teen years, so the way I felt and saw things was pretty intense. I was going through a difficult existential crisis and couldn’t control my depression.

I was feeling my world had ended and there was not a feasible solution ahead. Suddenly something happened and I had a strange experience, I was watching myself feeling and thinking negative absurd things. It wasn’t like an out-of-body experience, it was all inside my head, it was as if my brain was divided in two and one side was judging the other. Continue reading

The bridge

In was surprised to see how a little bridge was able to “endure” its hard work. It was a small bridge made with bamboo rods that served to cross a little creek at the entrance of a small town in Japan.

All villagers use it, to enter the main road to access the centre of town and I was surprised to see how the bamboo bent under the weight of each villager carrying merchandise and things in general. Continue reading

Do you really want to be helped?

I know it sounds crazy but unfortunately is a question you have to ask yourself seriously. I know you are thinking right now that you really want to get some help and leave behind your problems.

And I am not talking only about external help; many times self-help is something we denied ourselves unconsciously.

We might say out loud we want things to change and we want to obtain what we wish for.  But one of the things we overlook sometimes is that deep inside of us we are the only obstacle to obtain what we want and we don’t want to admit it. Continue reading