Alone

 

There is lately a widely extended fear to be alone.

I know many people who actually prefer to be in a destructive relationship than being on their own.

This fear has grown so much in our society, that is now considered as a very serious illness known by many different names: monophobia, autophobia, Isola phobia, among others.

Although there are different levels in these phobias. Most people present one or more symptoms at the same time. Continue reading

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Your pain

When we look back into our past, we can see many periods when things looked impossible to bear.  Tough situations when our hope seemed to be vanished but, in the bottom of our heart, hope was the only thing that kept us alive.

But once we overcome those situations and we look at things from a more relaxed perspective, we can see all the “advantages” of those painful times.

You learn to differentiate true friends from those who are only there pretending they are on your side but, the moment they know that you need their help, they look the other way leaving you alone. Continue reading

You are never alone

 

There is nothing as scarier as losing a job, failing your marriage, finding out you have a bad illness, or feeling you are on your own.

It is so easy to be in the “spiritual path” when you have everything solved, when you have no emotional, economical or health problems that keep your serenity away.  Then is when we can study and make retreats, meditate and do all rituals you want.

To be an armchair guru at those times is very easy and we see examples of that every day.

It is when we face a big problem or terrible situation, when we forget about all the things we have learnt and when we react as everyone else.  When we are questioned about the things we have been studying all these years, we cannot remember all the theory we have been preaching about.

Despair enters our hearts once more and then we realise that everything we have been studying is not good at all. All was just wishful thinking.

But it is then when we should be stronger and more secured. Continue reading

You have survived

When I was a child I found happy faces everywhere I looked.  Now it is getting more difficult to find them around.  Probably as a child I did not put much attention to other people’s mood, the people I looked at was happier or I was not trained to see a sad or depressed face yet.

“Those were other times” some would answer, “People then had fewer worries, these times are more difficult” is a common response nowadays.

I am not sure how to classify it, but yes, finding happy faces is not as easy for me lately.  Should I move to a different country? Well, not exactly, after travelling a lot I have found all kind of people everywhere, but thanks to the internet now you can talk to people on the other side of the planet in real time and realise that they are not having it easier there either. Continue reading

Solitude

“So you are marrying that guy?” I asked her.

“Yes I am.” She answered with a vague look in her eyes.

“But you said you met him just two months ago” I asked her with surprise.

After a few seconds of consideration she swiftly said: “Yes, but please understand that I don´t want to be alone anymore.” Her voice was firm and I understood she didn´t want to continue this conversation Continue reading

Make them smile

I knew she had gone through a real hell, to say the least. She had to suffer big losses and in some way anything I could say wouldn’t help her to get over all that.

When a person is really suffering there is no much you can say to them.  They need to go through their mourn cycle and then time will help them heal some wounds. Not completely but they will smile again.  And most times that is something you can try. Continue reading

Stop it! You don’t have to be strong all the time

(Taken from my book “Quantum Thoughts – Answers”)

Stop it! You don’t have to be strong all the time

“Just keep going”, “You have to be strong”, “Keep your head up”, “Don’t be afraid”, “Don’t worry, be happy” and many other expressions are said very lightly by everyone when the problem is on someone else’s shoulders.

But when they have to deal with difficult times the same people who told you that in the past, get mad at you when you use the same clichés on them. Continue reading

Wisdom

We are not as “left alone” as sometimes we feel we are.

We are born with our own gifts and virtues but we are not completely “on our own”. We might not see it or feel it in a more tangible way but there are much more around us that our senses can perceive. Continue reading

Esc

I remember the days when we had to write our own code (computer programs, software) to achieve what we needed. There was no Internet and the software market was not as saturated as it is today.

If you wanted to make a report for your company, there were no electronic sheets, you had to code the whole thing in your computer and sent the output to your dot matrix printer, hoping things wouldn’t get too messy.  No, we didn’t have a preview mode either, so we couldn’t see beforehand if things would fit the size of the paper in our printer. Continue reading

Silence!

We are living in a world where everyday is more difficult to enjoy silence.

Silence keeps the answer to our questions, it gives us peace and health.  Our body, mind and soul need it.

Nevertheless silence it’s becoming a rarity. It is so difficult now to find a place where we can find it and we are even losing contact with it in such a way that when we stay at home alone and no one is beside us we even turn on the radio or tv “just to have something in the background” and not feeling alone.

Learn to love silence, you won’t feel alone in it.  You’ll be able to talk to yourself and find answers inside of you, that you wouldn’t be able to find otherwise. Continue reading