You are the best!

Sometimes we look up at other people thinking their lives are really great and worth imitating.  We see just what they allow us, great houses, cars, expensive gadgets, etc.

We believe they have a wonderful life and we wish we could be as lucky as they are.

We see people we call achievers and read about their great success in business, sports, politics etc.  We would love to do things as good as they do.

We tend to idealise those people and really believe that we are very far from those overachievers.  We wouldn’t dream to compare with them and sometimes we even feel happy if we could do a quarter of what they can do.  And actually that is the real problem. Continue reading

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The best I ever had

Why is it that when somebody dies he or she becomes the best person on the planet?

Why after a love is gone, we realise after a while, that he/she was the “love of our life”?

Why do we have to face loss, in order to find the good aspects of people, places and things?

And you can apply that to practically everything with the exception of abusive people and bad situations. But even in those cases I have seen people who, when an abusive person who made their life a real hell, dies. They begin to find the “good” in them.  Sometimes an excess of dependency? An addiction to old beliefs? Whatever…

The problem is that we keep complaining everyday about almost everything in our world but we rarely stop to smell the flowers on the way.  Are you grateful for the roof upon your head right now? Are you happy because you still have people who care about you and who still ask you in a sincere manner how you are when they see you? Continue reading

Do not allow them

You wake up feeling wonderful, you had a good night and you feel happy and expectant about your day.

You are not feeling tired like other days and you know deep inside of you that this could be a wonderful day.

You wear your best coat and leave your home to conquer the world, you even see your street and the people walking around you under a different light. You are even smiling, but suddenly, a bus passing right in front of you splashes the water of a dirty puddle all over you, now your precious coat looks like rubbish and you just want to vanish into the centre of the earth.

You go back to your home and quickly fetch the fist garments you find in your closet.  Obviously, you get to your job late and, a furious boss asks you to present him the reports he has been asking you for since last week, just to find a ton of mistakes in them, so you are obliged to do them again. Continue reading

The best I can do

I still have problems defining when I have to stop trying to do things. On one side my mind tells me to “make things happen” and the other side says “do not force things and go with the flow”.  And that is like trying to drive with one foot on the accelerator and the other on the brake at the same time.

I know, sometimes life asks you to go beyond your normal efforts in order to achieve more meaningful things and sometimes you need to allow things to freely flow because with your pressure you are only slowing things down.

But how do you know when acting one way and when acting the other? Continue reading

The best I ever had

Why is it that when somebody dies he or she becomes the best person on the planet?

Why after a love is gone, we realise after a while, that he/she was the “love of our life”?

Why do we have to face loss, in order to find the good aspects of people, places and things?

And you can apply that to practically everything with the exception of abusive people and bad situations. But even in those cases I have seen people who, when an abusive person who made their life a real hell, dies. They begin to find the “good” in them.  Sometimes an excess of dependency? An addiction to old beliefs? Whatever… Continue reading

Your best friend

I know we all talk “bad” about ourselves from time to time: “I am so stupid!”, “how silly of me…”,” Man! I am so clumsy.” And so on.

Sometimes without even realising we keep “insulting” ourselves the whole day. And although our conscious mind wouldn´t pay much attention on it, our subconscious mind does.

Thus creating our “hidden” programming.

A friend of mine (who once was my math teacher as well) was an excellent tennis player.  He trained after his classes 5 or 6 hours every day.

But out of a “fake modesty” he began to underestimate his own abilities when talking to other people. He told me he felt bad talking in a good way about his game. He didn’t want to sound boastful or arrogant. So he began to talk “bad” about his skills. Continue reading

Decisions

We all have heard the expression: “If life gives you lemons, make lemonade!” And in a certain way that is what we do all the time.

You make thousands of decisions every day, what shoes will you use today? Are you going to drink coffee or tea? Will you take the bus or finally walk a little? Will you take this as a miracle or a regular event? Etc. Continue reading