Problem creator

 

Every day we are exposed to lots of problems, with lots of variants, with lots solutions or decisions in front of us which lead to even more consequences.

Once we decide to deal with one of this “problems” we should find the root of it, and as a friend used to say: “Somebody must take the blame for this, and ain´t gonna be me.”

So, finding someone else to blame is not a difficult task. We usually do it immediately and automatically.

But then, finding a solution gets even more difficult. Linking the possible solution with our problem and expecting the one we blamed to take care of it, makes progress impossible.

But changing that mentality could benefit us immensely. Continue reading

It is not personal

I was observing an elderly man in the underground station who seem to be very upset, walking from one side to the other and talking to himself all the time.

A group of students were playing, shouting, and pushing one another near this man. Suddenly one of the students tripped and fell right in front of that man, making him fall, the old man obviously got really mad, yelling and accusing the young guy of attacking him. But the student instead of apologising and helping the old man to get on his feet again, he began answering back to him calling him blind and useless.

The elderly man of course, got even more furious and stood up trying to punch the student, most people saw the scene from this point since all the shouting had attracted their attention until that moment, but they didn’t see the beginning of the incident.

So when they saw a grown up man trying to hit a young lad, they began attacking him and this incident turned into a whole mess. Continue reading

Do not feel bad

We all need to accept the fact that each one of us is responsible for our own results. Good or bad. And that we should not give any one else that power either.

I was talking to a friend of mine who decided to leave her country to live with indigenous communities in the jungle. She goes to different zones in south america to carry food, medicine and teach people in remote towns to read and write. Among other things.

She is very happy doing what she loves but, lately she has been going through a series of bad moments because her mother died recently and she now feels that she was very selfish due to her passion for travel and leaving her mother and family behind. Continue reading

It will not go away, until…

“…But I have done all the visualisations, meditations, affirmations and any spiritual exercise you can imagine, but my situation is still the same” my friend said yesterday with a desperate tone.

“I know the feeling” I answer with first hand experience.

“But I think I have done everything to change my life and circumstances but I just do not see these problems vanishing from my life”. He bitterly complained.

“I know very well what you are going through now” i told him. “It is really frustrating, but it is a natural process.”  I answered as calmed as possible. Continue reading

It is your fault!

“You cannot blame me for that! My job is not inspire you or motivate you to do anything, that is your decision, I just give you the elements in a neutral way, you decide how to interpret them and what to do with them” Said angrily a voice in my head.

“But you made me feel sad with the images you were showing me!” My conscious mind answered defensively. Continue reading

Modifying your past (Warning: Crazy thoughts ahead enter at your own risk)

With Quantum mechanics our common logic does not work, it doesn’t matter how much we try to make sense of it, it is amazing but it´s real.

More and more universities around the world are working on different theories and experiments to try to understand the bases of quantum world. And the conclusions, or at least the results of those experiments are totally mind blowing. That is why Niels Bohr said that if you read an hour about Quantum Physics and your head doesn’t hurt, you didn’t understand anything. Continue reading

Forgiving

I have heard lately many people talking about forgiving others. I have been questioned many times about how I could forgive betrayal and lies so easily.

The truth is, I forgive myself first.  I am conscious that I have allowed those people to hurt me in the first place. I have gave them the power to do so. I have released my power and then, the harm is done.

So I always begin by forgiving myself.

The rest is much easier. Continue reading

You are on your own

I was surprised to listen to her saying that they shouldn´t be together because they didn’t bring the best in each other. And I was surprised because I have heard that even from marriage counsellors, psychologists, doctors, lawyers and many other people who are supposed to be a little more knowledgeable.

Maybe that is why so many relationships have been and still are nowadays, doomed to fail.

You are responsible of your life, you are responsible to shine with your own light regardless of who you are with or what is going on around you.  You don’t depend on anyone else for that, you don’t need their permission, guidance nor anything else to be yourself. Please do not think that you need to “adjust” your personal brightness level to match the person beside you.  You NEED TO BE YOU.  You MUST be yourself.

If you find someone to love then fine, you are lucky. If you haven’t yet found someone to love then they will soon come, but NEVER, please never expect someone else to bring out the best in you.  That is your own job.  And never blame anyone else for not being the best version of yourself.

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Honesty

How many times have you blamed your success on the circumstances? Other people? Luck?

Usually we tend to blame the outside world for your disgraces and take the credit for our successes.

But being honest with yourself, those things that are bothering you, hindering you, holding you back, are they really so “external”? Continue reading