You are the best!

Sometimes we look up at other people thinking their lives are really great and worth imitating.  We see just what they allow us, great houses, cars, expensive gadgets, etc.

We believe they have a wonderful life and we wish we could be as lucky as they are.

We see people we call achievers and read about their great success in business, sports, politics etc.  We would love to do things as good as they do.

We tend to idealise those people and really believe that we are very far from those overachievers.  We wouldn’t dream to compare with them and sometimes we even feel happy if we could do a quarter of what they can do.  And actually that is the real problem.

When we compare with others we are actually setting our threshold very low.  We are limiting our true capabilities and beliefs since we have been taught to believe those people are superior to us. Continue reading

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Is that you?

She was a sweet and lovely girl.  She grew up in a traditional family and her childhood was a happy one.

As she grew up people and events turn her down and she became resentful and “tougher”. She began talking like her male friends and changed her stylish wardrobe for a more masculine looking. Even her movements and vocabulary became more aggressive and rough.

Finally one day I dared to ask her why she decided to make those changes in her personality, since she was such a nice young lady and now she was rougher than some gang members I know. Continue reading

Shake it off

 

There is nothing more difficult than trying to talk with someone who is angry. You ask them to listen to what you have to say, but their anger do not let them listen, really listen, they actually are not really interested in what you have to say, all they want to do is to take that awful feeling out of their system.

Even if they let you speak for a few seconds, they will immediately start talking back to you, they won’t listen to your reasons because they won’t keep that anger inside and need to get it out of them. Even if you are right they cannot see it.

There is no point to talk with someone who is blinded by their bad temper and, who in the same way as an ill person does, is looking at the world through their toxins.

But guess what? Sometimes you are that blind mad person. Continue reading

Tired

 

I have tried to sleep more hours to see if my weariness would fade away. But I kept feeling tired, with no energy whatsoever.  When your inner self is tired, all the physical rest and sleeping will not make a difference.

There are days when you wake up and life hurts, therefore you resent it and will reflect it in your physical body.  And of course it will take you longer to stand on your feet, but any way you have to do it.

You see, it is easier for our brain to recall bad memories.  We usually remember more the bad events than the good ones, so we keep them in the first row of our conscious mind and that could be one of the main reasons why we keep repeating our mistakes and manifesting our worst fears faster. Continue reading

Your Light

 

There are days when you just cannot find the Light in your life and everything looks so dark and sinister.

With all the bad news inundating the Internet and the public media, those tragic stories from family and friends who are always so eager to share them with us, even before asking how we are doing.  The strangers in the street who love to tell you their lives and recent tragedies to see if they can find a friendly ear, that allows them to discharge their bad energy accumulated in their soul for so long. All that added to your own personal emotional baggage!

There are days, when you have to decide creating your own Light in the middle of a lot of induced darkness. Continue reading

Timeless

One of the most wonderful things about literature is that it could be timeless.

You can write a chronicle right now about events that took place thousands of years ago, you can start a story in an undetermined era and create a delightful narrative about an ageless period.

I have read books with teachings written centuries ago and its concepts are still valid and relevant nowadays. You can learn from them as if they had been written this morning and applying that wisdom to your daily life is as suitable as if you were living back then. Continue reading

Continuum

“Our main problem here is that we allow our mind to wander free when we need it to be focused and to focus on the things we should release.” The Lama said.

“We need to discipline our mind to avoid being dominated by the continuum…” He continued.

“And what is the continuum?” I asked, abruptly interrupting him.

He looked at me with a smile and answered: “What we call continuum, are those thoughts that seem to never leave our mind. Those sounds and memories that keep repeating as a broken old record in our mind without control”.

“It is like a song you listen on the radio once, the rhythm is catchy, you like it, and suddenly, you find yourself singing it without being conscious of it.  After a few hours and even days later, your mind keeps repeating a small portion of the song until you become conscious of this constant repetition.”

“The same happens with certain sentences or lines you hear in movies, TV, from friends, etc.”

“All that energy keeps your mind busy the whole day.  The problem is that some old and negative thoughts, ideas and feelings are trapped by your mind, forming a continuum that becomes very difficult to get rid of, forming a very negative mentality and creating many problems in your mind. “

“Then you ask yourself why bad things appear in your life.”

I remained silent for a few minutes and then asked him: “Can we do something about it? Can we really change that continuum? Can we program our own content?  Can we create a permanent continuum in our head at will?”

He laughed loudly and added: “Of course you can, actually you must, if you want to change your life and create a better present for yourself and all sentient beings.”

I remained in silence for a while. He was right. I was still struggling to stop repeating a jingle I heard on the radio a few days back and the more I tried to stop it, the more my mind kept repeating in the least expected moment.

Norman Vincent Peal said that motivation is like a flower, you need to water it every day to keep it from dying.

I am sharing in these chapters my thoughts and life experiences with the hope I can change my inner continuum, by reminding me of those lessons that have shaped my present mindset.

I hope you find something useful in them and maybe they could give you some ideas to create a better continuum for yourself.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for coming with me in this inner quest.

May the Light be with you always.

Hector Sampson

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Forgiveness

 

It seems very difficult to forgive someone who has done something that really damaged us in some way.

But time has taught us that everyone receives what he or she deserves, even if we don’t see it.  Many times I have heard people complaining about that, but we don’t know what really happens in other people’s life, so definitely we cannot affirm anything whatsoever.

In many cases, when possible, after some deep research we have found out that the lives of people who have been considered as bad or harmful to others have lived a tormented inner existence.

To believe that our actions won’t receive a reaction would be a contradiction to natural laws. This reaction will be good or bad depending on our action and is a common natural law we can observe in the entire universe. Continue reading

Fall in love

 

I have seen an increase on those internet sites that promise to help you meet the love of your life and put you in contact with people you can fall in love with.

Some, promise you to introduce you to single people in your area, other sites promise to help you meet people for a relationship, regardless of their marital status, or yours.

Most of these sites have sections where you can learn to interact with your prospects and offer all kind of advices on how to start a conversation, how to dress properly for the first date, how to control your body language so you can convey the right message and the do’s and don´ts when you are meeting others for the first time.

Many of this “guides” teach you how to conceal your defects, how to show off your “qualities”, how to look as a “good catch” for the other person and how to leave a good impression after the first date, so you can take the next step into the relationship.

Most of these manuals never tell you how to be more authentic, so others see the real you from the beginning though.

I would like to find in those sites more manuals, where they teach you how to fall in love with the only person who will really be with you till the end of your days: Yourself.

The world is trying to mould you to be liked the rest, they tell you what you need to change, what you must cover and pretend, so you might fit into the standards needed to be considered an adequate person.

But why is it, that they never tell you that you are already perfect, that you can be liked, accepted and loved just the way you are. Why nobody is telling you that you have no need to hide, pretend or change anything, so you can be liked and shine with your own light?

How could anybody else fall in love with you when you keep telling yourself that you are not worthy, not perfect, not beautiful enough.

How could anybody be attracted to someone who is looking at the bad side of everything in themselves? Continue reading

Wherever you are

If you look around you right now, what do you see? Or better said, do you like what you see? Are you in the place where you wanted to be a year ago? Are the circumstances as you wished them to be back then?

If you answered yes to all those questions, congratulations, you have reached the goal. But if you answered no to any or all of them, then do not worry. You are a winner anyway because, believe it or not, you are where you are meant to be right now.

Probably your goals and dreams were different and you think you are not supposed to be where you are today. But that is not so.

No matter how awful/great things were these last months, they have brought you where you are mean to be for your own good. Continue reading