Forgiveness

 

It seems very difficult to forgive someone who has done something that really damaged us in some way.

But time has taught us that everyone receives what he or she deserves, even if we don’t see it.  Many times I have heard people complaining about that, but we don’t know what really happens in other people’s life, so definitely we cannot affirm anything whatsoever.

In many cases, when possible, after some deep research we have found out that the lives of people who have been considered as bad or harmful to others have lived a tormented inner existence.

To believe that our actions won’t receive a reaction would be a contradiction to natural laws. This reaction will be good or bad depending on our action and is a common natural law we can observe in the entire universe. Continue reading

Fall in love

 

I have seen an increase on those internet sites that promise to help you meet the love of your life and put you in contact with people you can fall in love with.

Some, promise you to introduce you to single people in your area, other sites promise to help you meet people for a relationship, regardless of their marital status, or yours.

Most of these sites have sections where you can learn to interact with your prospects and offer all kind of advices on how to start a conversation, how to dress properly for the first date, how to control your body language so you can convey the right message and the do’s and don´ts when you are meeting others for the first time.

Many of this “guides” teach you how to conceal your defects, how to show off your “qualities”, how to look as a “good catch” for the other person and how to leave a good impression after the first date, so you can take the next step into the relationship.

Most of these manuals never tell you how to be more authentic, so others see the real you from the beginning though.

I would like to find in those sites more manuals, where they teach you how to fall in love with the only person who will really be with you till the end of your days: Yourself.

The world is trying to mould you to be liked the rest, they tell you what you need to change, what you must cover and pretend, so you might fit into the standards needed to be considered an adequate person.

But why is it, that they never tell you that you are already perfect, that you can be liked, accepted and loved just the way you are. Why nobody is telling you that you have no need to hide, pretend or change anything, so you can be liked and shine with your own light?

How could anybody else fall in love with you when you keep telling yourself that you are not worthy, not perfect, not beautiful enough.

How could anybody be attracted to someone who is looking at the bad side of everything in themselves? Continue reading

Wherever you are

If you look around you right now, what do you see? Or better said, do you like what you see? Are you in the place where you wanted to be a year ago? Are the circumstances as you wished them to be back then?

If you answered yes to all those questions, congratulations, you have reached the goal. But if you answered no to any or all of them, then do not worry. You are a winner anyway because, believe it or not, you are where you are meant to be right now.

Probably your goals and dreams were different and you think you are not supposed to be where you are today. But that is not so.

No matter how awful/great things were these last months, they have brought you where you are mean to be for your own good. Continue reading

Self

 

Probably one big problem with many people is that they cannot accept when a spiritual teacher is in a “higher level” then they are.

For years and years, many religions around the world have taught us that we shouldn’t be self-centred, that we should forget about us and live for the rest of the world.

That the worst sin was to be selfish.

And now we are seeing the results of that mentality.  We see people hating themselves and their lives and living a life dictated by the people around them. Continue reading

You are the best!

Sometimes we look up at other people thinking their lives are really great and worth imitating.  We see just what they allow us, great houses, cars, expensive gadgets, etc.

We believe they have a wonderful life and we wish we could be as lucky as they are.

We see people we call achievers and read about their great success in business, sports, politics etc.  We would love to do things as good as they do.

We tend to idealise those people and really believe that we are very far from those overachievers.  We wouldn’t dream to compare with them and sometimes we even feel happy if we could do a quarter of what they can do.  And actually that is the real problem. Continue reading

Harmful ideas

One of the most difficult things we have to go through in this life is having to let go of things.  Attachment is carved so deep into our soul that we actually feel like we own the entire universe.

That sense of ownership and competitiveness have been making real damage to our society for quite a long time now.

For example, we believe we own our children. Our sons and daughters are not ours, they are not our property. They have arrived to our life to teach us to be better and to evolve at the same time they receive our guidance and love. But they are independent of us and we need to stop treating them as if we owned their lives.

Another example is when we drive.  We have forgotten that we are SHARING the streets with other people, we do not OWN the road, so we don’t need to use avenues, streets, motorways, etc., as if they belonged to us and we were the only ones with the right to use them.  We all have the same right of transit. Continue reading

You are never alone

 

There is nothing as scarier as losing a job, failing your marriage, finding out you have a bad illness, or feeling you are on your own.

It is so easy to be in the “spiritual path” when you have everything solved, when you have no emotional, economical or health problems that keep your serenity away.  Then is when we can study and make retreats, meditate and do all rituals you want.

To be an armchair guru at those times is very easy and we see examples of that every day.

It is when we face a big problem or terrible situation, when we forget about all the things we have learnt and when we react as everyone else.  When we are questioned about the things we have been studying all these years, we cannot remember all the theory we have been preaching about.

Despair enters our hearts once more and then we realise that everything we have been studying is not good at all. All was just wishful thinking.

But it is then when we should be stronger and more secured. Continue reading

Extreme

I was talking to a friend who works in the army. He was saying that in some special training they are taken to the extremes, they are tested so they can learn how far their bodies and minds can go.

He said that civilians are unaware of what we can do because we are never tested that way that we never know what we can endure because we are not taken to those levels of resistance.

I believe he is right, but on the other hand I think we are tested too by the problems and situations we have to face during our life.  Not all of us need to be left in the jungle for some weeks to try to survive eating snakes and roots, but some people have to survive in many other ways and I have met people who have been able to master their bodies and minds to a point I would call them Spiritual Rambos. Continue reading

On Time

 

I was shocked to see how far into the year we are now. Where have all those days, weeks and hours gone? Life is happening too fast.

Maybe time is accelerating as some people are saying, maybe my daily routine is getting too….mmh…. routinely?

It was a Saturday two weeks ago, when I attended a very interesting conference at a University, I was still trying to let the concepts learnt there sink into my head, when suddenly I saw the calendar and it was Saturday once more! So soon? Where did all the rest of the week go?

Then I decided to make time go slower, yes, if time is a perception of the mind as some theories affirm, then I had to try and make it flow slowly.

I stopped rushing every day and took more time to observe things around me, to enjoy every moment of the day and make an effort to notice those little details that pass unnoticed all the time. Continue reading

What about you?

 

Have you noticed how hard you are with yourself?

You can admire an athlete who has accomplished an important mark in their speciality, you love to read about those people who have survived tough situations and after a terrible struggle they came out victorious.

You can feel respect for those people who have gone through humiliation, torture and all kinds of abuse, in order to be true to their convictions and ideas in addition to sacrificing all in their lives so they could reach their final destination covered in glory.

We all have stories among our family and friends of people who have gone through a real hell on Earth just to accomplish their deepest dreams.

There are now, plenty of reality shows and other programs about those people who have made it in extreme circumstances. And we love to watch them and feel admiration and respect for those brave people who, despite all odds, have been true to themselves, have lost everything for the good of others and are now seen as heroes. Continue reading