Do not feel bad

We all need to accept the fact that each one of us is responsible for our own results. Good or bad. And that we should not give any one else that power either.

I was talking to a friend of mine who decided to leave her country to live with indigenous communities in the jungle. She goes to different zones in south america to carry food, medicine and teach people in remote towns to read and write. Among other things.

She is very happy doing what she loves but, lately she has been going through a series of bad moments because her mother died recently and she now feels that she was very selfish due to her passion for travel and leaving her mother and family behind. Continue reading

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Your silence

 

Nowadays, empty words are such a trend. Everybody has to say something all the time.

Even when they do not know what to say or they have no idea of what they are talking about.

If someone else is talking about something that happened to them the day before, people usually have an anecdote “more interesting”, “more frightening”, “more fabulous” to add.

If someone has some kind of illness or is going through a difficult time, there will always be that person who is going through something much more terrible than the others. As if demeaning other´s people problems and dilemmas was some kind of contest. Continue reading

Leaving behind…

After a long period of hardships in your life. After all the hard test have been overpowered, the most difficult thing is to leave those bad feelings behind.

Getting over a bad experience does not mean that you have to pretend the harm never existed.  It just means it is no longer directing your life.

I know there are things you will not be able to forget, but at least take the power you once gave them to guide the course of your life for a while and, retake it once more.

I once thought I was not good enough and, that I did not deserve to be happy and prosperous and those thoughts governed my life for a long time.  After discovering that there was no external person nor influence to blame, I decided to take that power back and manage it myself to direct it to more fruitful endeavours. Continue reading

Is that you?

She was a sweet and lovely girl.  She grew up in a traditional family and her childhood was a happy one.

As she grew up people and events turn her down and she became resentful and “tougher”. She began talking like her male friends and changed her stylish wardrobe for a more masculine looking. Even her movements and vocabulary became more aggressive and rough.

Finally one day I dared to ask her why she decided to make those changes in her personality, since she was such a nice young lady and now she was rougher than some gang members I know.

She told me she had to play a different role. She was alone with her two children in a world made for men by men and where women had no safe place to be. So she decided she wouldn´t let anybody walk upon her, she would be the one stepping on other people´s heads. Continue reading

Beginning

When we open a book or a movie begins, we take the first lines or scene as the “beginning” of that story.

Even if in the book or movie there might be some references to other stories or events way before the beginning or the actual story, (actually where we were introduced to it) we always take that first scene or line as “the beginning”. Continue reading

Carrying the weight

We as humans have the power to reason and control our thoughts, but do we really use this privilege in the right way?

Have you notice how we sometimes fall in love with our own suffering?

When we have a problem or we are facing a difficult situation, instead of getting over it and put it behind us, we take the event and keep replaying  it in our mind reliving it too many times and sometimes even making the details more dramatic or making us more upset by repeating it in our conversations, thoughts and even dreams.

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ou unnecessarily carrying right now?