Do your part

 

I do not need to remind you of all the bad things happening every day in our planet. It is actually very difficult to turn your head to the other side to avoid the news.

There is a tendency in the media nowadays to highlight the bad news since they know that is what really sells. When they publish good news, people do not react the same way and they lose their profit.

The real problem is, that we accept that game, and get too inundated with those notes, and besides our personal everyday problems, we get even more stress with the tragedies in the world.

I know it is important to be informed of what is happening in the international and local arena. But in the process of finding a subject for the lunch time chat, we keep forgetting that we will have our part on this global stress wave. Continue reading

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Building the new   

In a time of fast changes in technology, politics, society, ideologies and so on and so forth, being static seems to be “out of fashion”.

New discoveries in science appear and our ideas and old prejudices must change as well. Quantum physics is really weird and although it seems it cannot affect your “reality” directly, some of its effects are beginning to be understood nowadays.  We are changing the way we see our universe and there will be radical changes in our mentalities and dogmas in science and religion.  Yes, you have read well, there are dogmas in science too, believe it or not.  But we´ll talk about it some other time. There are many stubborn “scientists” out there who prefer to look to the other side when a new idea appears, since it is much more comfortable to remain believing in the old concepts than work on understanding and testing the new ones. Continue reading

Your real power

If someone would tell you right now that you are more “in charge” of your happiness than you think, what would your answer be?

Of course, we all are now aware of our “responsibility and influence” on our own happiness and well-being.  We have read a lot lately about how important our thoughts and feelings are to influence our end results.

But most times we need a reminder of this, because as soon as the things become difficult, we tend to forget our own power and immediately go back to “desperation mode”.

The XIV Dalai Lama once said: “If there is no solution to the problem then do not waste time worrying about it. If there is a solution to the problem then do not waste time worrying about it”.

And I have been many times there, where I thought things were very rough and I felt powerless and scared for the “magnitude” of the problems I had right in front of me.  But after some time, with the help of others or even through my own merits, I finally realised that things were not as huge as they seemed. Continue reading

It´s about to get easier

I know, these have been very difficult times, lots of tests, lots of lessons yet to learn but, if you look back now, you can contemplate a long and very bumpy road behind you.

If they had told you, in the beginning, that the road ahead of you would be so ragged, probably you would have chosen a different path.  Nevertheless, you are here now, you transited that hilly highway and here you are, taller, stronger, wiser. Congratulations!

When I learnt to skate by myself, I did fall many times, bruised my knees, crashed against other skaters, Streetlights, walls and many other hard objects I found on my way to master it. It was a very painful learning period, but it was totally worth it.

Skating has been for me a wonderful way to feeling myself really free. Feeling the air caressing my face while I glided around the rink, has been one of the most wonderful experiences in my life. Continue reading

You are more than fine

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Advice on how to be a good business partner, a better spouse, friend, lover, student, boss and so on. Are everywhere.

You can see in most magazines and newspapers, a section dedicated to those subjects. Everybody has something to tell you on how to be a better “version of yourself”.

All this information, as everything else in life, might be very useful and, of course, we can learn a lot when we try to apply it to our daily life but, on the other hand, we need to be extremely vigilant of what we accept and what we take with a pinch of salt.

We are all individuals, we are all different (fortunately). We can try to do things differently in order to learn new ways to do things, even faster and better.

But when it comes to your own nature, your own personality, your own being. Things are very different. Continue reading

This was not my plan

When I was a child, I had a very different idea of what my life would be.

I wanted to be an astronaut, an explorer, a fireman, a superhero, an engineer. Well from all these options, I only became the latter.

The truth is I never dreamt of travelling the world, meeting very interesting people from different backgrounds and being who I am today.

I am not judging here, whether it was good or bad to be who I am today; I just know it was the best option for me.

Of course I didn’t accomplish all the things I wanted, at least not yet, you never know what is coming next. But looking in retrospective, I have accomplished many things I never thought possible. Continue reading

Why is that happening again?

I thought I had finally left the bad habit of adding salt to my food without tasting it first.  I have slowed down my eating speed quite a lot and keeping my hands away from the salt shaker as much as possible, but I have caught myself adding salt more often, to food that does not really need it.

Yes, for some strange reason (maybe my body needs a little more sodium lately) My mind keeps bringing thoughts of salty food and, that constant desire for salt is pushing my hands to grab the salt shaker more often, maybe this is just a justification, but that is a habit I need to work on immediately before it causes a bigger damage.

Same with other bad habits, and fear as well. Fear is a bad habit when you allow it to be the master of your thoughts too frequently.

How would you expect to get rid of a bad thought if you keep entertaining it all the time? Continue reading

A new cycle

 

A cycle is just a series of events that are regularly repeated in the same order. Just as the day precedes night and spring precedes summer and then comes autumn, then winter and the cycles begins once more. Actually there is no beginning nor ending.

The same happens with every kind of cycle. A school year, a relationship cycle, a work cycle and so on.

Then how can we start a new cycle so we can change the things we didn’t like and get out of the inertia that is keeping us repeating the inner cycles that we need to get rid of.

The only way to “get off” a cycle we don’t want to repeat once more is making a radical change, so you can overcome the inertia, (that property of matter that keeps the same state of rest or motion unless changed by an external force). Continue reading

Contending

 

I don´t know about you but, I am just tired of seeing the opinion wars on social networks, News media, newspapers, radio, TV and even in the neighbour´s coffee table.

One side says they know what they are talking about, the other side give their “reasons” and instead of people trying to reach a common conclusion, all I see is people trying to defeat the other side.

You can see people complaining about everything but they never give an alternative solution to that situation. Politicians around the world promising to end the unemployment, hunger, war and every human problem there is, if people vote for them, but they never say how they are going to comply, of course they do not have a clue, they just want their votes.

Social networks full of people criticising their governments, their friends and neighbours, but never giving feasible propositions.

And yes, sites like mine complaining about all of them. Continue reading

Forget everything

 

What if all I am experiencing now is just a creation of my memory pictures?

What if every situation, person, problem and blessing is just there because is what my mind expected based on past experiences?

Is there a way to change that vicious circle?

Repeating the past might be comfortable in many areas, but the only way to evolve and advance in this universe is “forgetting about our past experiences and learn to look at everything as if it was the first time”.

I know this sounds strange and even impossible but it is a matter of practice, as everything else. Continue reading