The pain in change

Have you noticed that when facing new circumstances, new situations like a new job, moving to a new house, a new relationship, etc. We react in many different ways?

Fear is the first feeling to jump into our heart. And sometimes that fear is the main reason because we reject change so much.

And it is understandable since change could be a very traumatic experience at first.

I remember when I was a child to be afraid of jumping into a swimming pool because my memory of the first contact with water at a different temperature was not very enjoyable.  It took me a long time to slowly crawl into the pool and it was not a very pleasant event.

Of course once this “traumatic” experience was passed it was almost impossible to take me out of the pool, but to “convince” me to dive into it first thing in the morning was a very difficult task. Continue reading

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Your cover

They say you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover, nevertheless many authors (published or indie) struggle to design the best cover for their books. They know a cover will attract customers and “encourage” them to buy their books.

We do the same with humans. We know we shouldn’t judge them by their physical appearance yet, hard habits die hard and we still judge people by their “cover”.

A few days ago I cut my chin while shaving. The cut left an ugly scar that was easily seen by a distance. Of course that made me very self-conscious of my appearance and I think everybody notice my insecurity, despite my efforts to look confident.  I don’t know maybe it was just my appreciation. Continue reading

Cul-de-sac

I was in a hurry walking as fast as I could, almost running and overtaking every pedestrian walking in front of me on the street.  I usually walk very fast, but this time I was in a hurry and needed to get to an appointment on time, I hate being late, I consider that a lack of respect for other people´s time.

It was the first time I was in that area of that city, so every street was completely new to me.

Suddenly I saw a street in front of me that looked like a good short-cut to take and save sometime. Immediately I felt relieved and saw it as my salvation! But on the other side, something inside my head told me not to take that route. Continue reading

I want to live in this moment (Mental note)

I thought that living in this “reality” was simple and easy to do, but the more I talk to other people the more I realise that it is one of the most difficult things to do nowadays.

When I was a child and I was able to play without the help of any electronic device, I was more in “touch” with my reality since I used what I had in hand to build my toys. A piece of wood could be a ship, a bus, a bed, a seat or anything my mind could imagine. Same for an old box, a blanket, etc.

I used any object in my physical world to “create” a wonderful world in my mind. My mind was creating a world of fantasy for me to live in, but at the same time I was more in “touch” with the reality around me. The moment my mother called me to dinner, I was immediately “present” in my local reality. Continue reading