Follow them

Nothing in my life has arrived by chance. Either good or bad, every situation, person, blessing, problem, teaching, etc.

In some cases, there has been a point on the road where I have been able to see the reason why they appeared in my life. Other might kept their secrets for ever. Time will tell.

There is not a single thing I have learnt in the past that has not become “handy” at some point in my life.  That is why I do not consider “wasted time” to every second I spend learning something new.

There is an old Russian proverb: “Век живи, век учись” (Live a century, study a century).

Learning is a blessing. Its effects in our brain are amazing and actually it has healing properties as well. Continue reading

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Procrastinating your well-being

“And when I have a new house, then I will be happy” this woman said to her companion in a loud voice as if she wanted the whole world to find out.

“Then I shall know that everything I have done was worth it, all the pain, all the hard work, my suffering.”  The lady who was sitting beside her looked at her in silence.

“Then I’ll be able to smile again and know everything will be alright. “she concluded in a triumphant tone.

The lady who was travelling with her asked her after a few seconds: “how long have you waited for that to happen?”

“Thirty years” the first lady answered. Continue reading

It is not you…

You have done your best to be kind, generous, friendly and understanding towards others.  You consider yourself a peaceful, relaxed and easy to talk to kind of person. You work on your inner self constantly and take care of your own body as well as you can.

Nevertheless, the people you care the most, keep misunderstanding your words, intentions and actions.

What then, are you doing wrong?

Probably nothing.  You are not doing things wrong in purpose.  Maybe the only problem you are causing yourself, is worrying too much for what others think about you.

You have no need to care too much for the opinion of others about yourself. As long as you are happy with what you are doing, with the way you are living your life, by reaching your goals and if you are not hurting anyone in the process, it is almost certain that you are not doing anything wrong to them. Continue reading

Young

I am happy to say I have been privileged and blessed in many ways, throughout my life I have been able to meet and work with people who have been considered the best in their particular fields and I have learnt so much from them.

I was talking to a friend who is very concerned with ageing. She is not that old but she feels her body is not responding as before and now her mind is focused on her “lacks” instead of doing something about them. (Lack of mobility, lack of concentration, lack of sleep, and so on.)

I was just telling her about those people I have known in my life and who had been very successful, and their main characteristic had been “activity”.  They keep moving all the time, they walk a lot, keep studying new subjects a lot, they are open to new ideas and subjects a lot, they exercise a lot and watch their diets a lot.

A friend of mine who is 87 years “young” has a spirit of a man of 25, he actually is much more active and enthusiast than most of the young people I know. Continue reading

There is still time

I am impressed of the way young people are limiting themselves nowadays.  Yes, I know I sound like a bitter old man now, but I cannot understand why people are allowing others to control their minds and destinies.

I have been working with young people who have just finished their careers and most of them, are finding out that having a degree in your hands do not automatically make you capable to handle all things before you.

Finishing a career really means that you are ready to begin your journey in that subject but you are really beginning to learn what you will need ahead in your path.  Having a degree means you have learnt the basics but what really matters and is really important for your progress, life will teach you later on the way. Continue reading

Drama

They say we learnt to draw attention to ourselves when we were babies by crying, the louder we cried, the faster we received the attention.

This behaviour continues until our adulthood and as it still works for us sometimes, so we tend to sharpen our skills and become drama masters very soon.

Some people master the art of causing pity to others so they can get what they want.  Some learn how to blame others so they can be seen as victims of external factors/people and, I must admit some of them are real good at it. Continue reading

Do it for you

The more you advance in life, the more you realise that your reality has more to do with yourself than with external elements.

We are taught to avoid selfish attitudes and to pay attention on the opinion of the rest of the world, before considering our own.

You try sometimes to be good to other people, specially your loved ones, but time teaches you that you cannot make them love you, as you love them, you cannot expect them to be as good and loyal to you, as you are to them. You cannot force them to see life as you do, because they have their own view of the world, they have their own needs and they experience a different life with different perspectives and ideas, even if they spend all the time near you. Continue reading

Wherever you are

If you look around you right now, what do you see? Or better said, do you like what you see? Are you in the place where you wanted to be a year ago? Are the circumstances as you wished them to be back then?

If you answered yes to all those questions, congratulations, you have reached the goal. But if you answered no to any or all of them, then do not worry. You are a winner anyway because, believe it or not, you are where you are meant to be right now.

Probably your goals and dreams were different and you think you are not supposed to be where you are today. But that is not so. Continue reading

The voice

Wait! You have been through too many things in your life and you might not be perfect, but you are a gem who took a long time and effort to be who you are now.

You have reached this far and it would be a shame if you’d stopped right now and decide to finish your journey just a few inches from your goal.

I know your trip have been difficult, you have survived and you are a living example for all of us who are watching you, even if you haven’t noticed us. Continue reading

Are we different?

I just received an email from a friend in Japan. She shares with me some of her hopes and fears and I was surprised to see how “similar” our dreams and problems were.

But why was I so surprised? I have been there and when I was in Japan, and actually after getting to know the people and customs there I was “accepted” in the community.  To me they were like anyone else and I think I was taken as one more in the bunch.

So where did I begin to think they could feel or experience life in a different way than I do?

Being now on the other side of the planet, when I hear about Japan is like listening from a different world.  But that is only an error in my perspective.

Distance is relative to the observer, just like time. Continue reading