Self-love

I grew up in a time when self-love was something bad, a sin.

It was wrongly labelled as egoism and many people tried to avoid it like the plague.

That avoidance had been the cause of many common problems we have to deal with nowadays.

“Do not think about yourself first”, “Being egotistical will send you straight to hell”, “If you weren´t so self-centred, this wouldn´t have happened to you”, “Nobody will love you if you don´t stop caring only about yourself”. These were common phrases I heard as I grew up. (Actually it wasn´t that long ago, I am talking of only two decades more or less) Continue reading

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Severe judge

I was watching a video of my daughter dancing, in my opinion, (and I must say that I am not the typical father who sees everything his children do as marvellous and perfect), she did a very good job, but for her, she danced terribly, I tried to see the terrible parts in it, to comment with her what should be improved, but it was not as bad as she saw herself.

That reminded me when I was her age I used to see the videos of my tournaments and I was extremely critic of myself. My teachers were happy with my improvements, but to my eyes I was really lousy and clumsy in my movements. Maybe it was the little critic we all have inside? Continue reading