Experience

 

I was talking to an older friend, about his life and the experience he has gained through the years.

As a child, I had the idea that life gives us experience through different events and that every old person was wise and experienced in all areas of life.

I always thought that someone who had been on this planet for many decades had been able to gather all the knowledge in the world, but that idea began to fade as I grew up and had to work with many old people.

My friend who has been on this Earth for a little more of 8 decades, was amazed with my concepts and told me that experience and strength were not dependent of the age but on endurance. Continue reading

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Your trophy room

I used to enjoy observing in silence all the treasures a friend had in his studio.  The walls were covered by photos, trophies, awards and things of that kind.

Throughout his life he had met and befriended many celebrities from different parts of the world and some of them had been key elements in human history.

One day, as I discovered more hidden “treasures” as autographed books, honours and acknowledgements. My friend arrived and sat at his desk.  He amusingly observed as I enjoyed myself watching his amazing collection of memories.

To him these were witnesses of his own story. His achievements, failures, good and bad times, but always a memory of the lesson learnt was present in each object therein. Continue reading

At your own pace

Have you ever fell down or felt sad or depressed after a difficult event and a close friend or family member slaps your back and asked to cheer up or just said: “Come on, get over it, just be happy”?

Then they recommended you a good book or a “guided meditation” so you could “get out of the hole” faster?

Of course you are trying to understand what happened, you are trying to heal your wounds and of course you wish you could go above to situation and feel good once more, but you have your own rhythm to do it, right?

I am not saying they are bad, insensitive, cold people, they surely love you and want you to be al right and on your feet once more very soon.  They do not understand your inner needs and situation, so it is important for you to learn and defend your right to heal at your own speed. Continue reading

The cause

I was talking to a friend about all those bizarre “negative” things and events in our lives.

According to him, his life had always been very harsh and difficult. Many times he had complained about all the things he had to go through to survive, while most of his friends and family had a more relaxed and comfortable life, (at least from his perspective).

He had to overcome several obstacles in his past, in order to reach some things that other people simply obtained or achieved in a very “relaxed” manner, according to his analysis.

He was about to go once more, through the list of difficulties he had to face in his life until this morning, when I was forced to interrupt his litany in order to avoid 45 more minutes of the same old, same old. Continue reading

Do it for you

The more you advance in life, the more you realise that your reality has more to do with yourself than with external elements.

We are taught to avoid selfish attitudes and to pay attention on the opinion of the rest of the world, before considering our own.

You try sometimes to be good to other people, specially your loved ones, but time teaches you that you cannot make them love you, as you love them, you cannot expect them to be as good and loyal to you, as you are to them. You cannot force them to see life as you do, because they have their own view of the world, they have their own needs and they experience a different life with different perspectives and ideas, even if they spend all the time near you. Continue reading

Bad

We always complain about the bad things that happen to us in our everyday life.

Sometimes we feel the worst things take place at the worst moment so our mind begins to orbit around our problems, leaving the rest of our life out of perspective. Then the rest of the world disappears and our attention is focused on those “terrible situations”.

We all have been there and when we finally take a look around us, we finally see there are much bigger problems in the life of others that the ones we are considering as our doom. Continue reading

Wherever you are

If you look around you right now, what do you see? Or better said, do you like what you see? Are you in the place where you wanted to be a year ago? Are the circumstances as you wished them to be back then?

If you answered yes to all those questions, congratulations, you have reached the goal. But if you answered no to any or all of them, then do not worry. You are a winner anyway because, believe it or not, you are where you are meant to be right now.

Probably your goals and dreams were different and you think you are not supposed to be where you are today. But that is not so. Continue reading

Create

I have mentioned many times an old Russian proverb that says: “There is no bad without good”. And in a few words it means that every time something “bad” happens to us, it’s because it brings something better behind it.

I have learnt that receiving every negative incident that arrives to our life with a positive disposition changes a lot the final result of that event. Continue reading

Endings

When we see the end of a year, a cycle, a relationship, a school term, etc., we tend to react with sadness or joy, depending on how we judged that period of time.

But what is new inside your heart and mind after the good and the bad within that old cycle?  All those “negative” things that appeared during that time has brought you what new lessons? How are you going to react next time to similar events? Do you feel stronger now? Can you see those times of frustration and anger as growing experiences? How will you use those experiences in the future? Continue reading

Trust and jump

The swimming instructor was on the other side of the pool with her hand extended towards me, asking me to jump in the water so I could lost my fear of swimming. The pool was deep, it was the “pool for the adults” as my friends and I called it.

I don’t remember the real depth, I was just 6 years old at the time.

What I clearly remember is the feeling of fear and anxiety I felt when I didn’t dare to jump into the water, even when I had the hand of the instructor less than a yard away from me. Continue reading