One of the best exercises I have ever tried to get results in amazing ways is the “good words exercise”. Have you heard about it?
Well it consist in every time you open your mouth to talk about something, force yourself to speak only positive words. That’s right! Not an easy task, but forcing yourself to speak only good positive words will keep you from talking tragedies, gossiping and criticising.
It is harder than it sounds, we are so used to speak bad about everything around us that if you don’t practice constantly, it is very easy to fall back into bad talking.
Even when you need to ask for a favour, a pay rise, a loan or whatever you need, if instead of leaning on the tragic side, you use a positive language you are more likely to receive what you need.
If you are going to talk about someone you are nor very fond of, then you will need to refer about that person in positive words, that will force you to “look for” the good aspects of that person, and you will see how “magically” that person will change with you, for you have changed your perspective of that person. Continue reading →
I was standing in the middle of the gym with all my classmates staring at me amusingly watching my intents to defend myself against my opponent.
I was the smallest bloke in the class, in age and size, but at that time I was not very interested in their opinion about me.
I loved martial arts and despite of my efforts, the combat ended up really bad for me.
But in that particular moment, for some reason that was irrelevant to me and after that humiliating exercise, my teacher made a long list of all the appalling mistakes I made that time. Actually I made all the known and unknown faults listed in the manual. But I was so focused on my passion for training that it didn’t sound intimidating or discouraging to me. Continue reading →
“I am very good at solving everybody´s problems, I always find different options for others to follow, but I don´t understand what happens when I try to find my own solution, my mind gets blurry and I cannot think straight.” An old friend was telling me the other day.
“Maybe you are taking your own problems too “seriously” or to “viscerally” and that emotional charge is impeding you to see things clearly” I answered while understanding perfectly what he was talking about and feeling the guilt of having been there too many times already.
He looked at me with an astonished look on his eyes and quickly answered: “I am trying to be logical, I am looking at things as they are.”
“No, you are looking at the things as you are now. You are interpreting them through your own particular filters, that´s it.” I said closing my mouth really hard in order to keep more words from coming out from it. Continue reading →
I was in a hurry walking as fast as I could, almost running and overtaking every pedestrian walking in front of me on the street. I usually walk very fast, but this time I was in a hurry and needed to get to an appointment on time, I hate being late, I consider that a lack of respect for other people´s time.
It was the first time I was in that area of that city, so every street was completely new to me.
Suddenly I saw a street in front of me that looked like a good short-cut to take and save sometime. Immediately I felt relieved and saw it as my salvation! But on the other side, something inside my head told me not to take that route. Continue reading →
There is nothing more annoying when sitting at a table to eat or drink something than, finding a “dancing table”. When the table is not well balanced and you have to ask the waiter or even yourself to put something under a leg in order to level the table so you don’t have to keep “pulling” your side of the table up to keep your soup from spilling all the time.
Well I don’t know if you have experienced that, but I have lived that many times in all kind of restaurants, expensive and cheap ones. And believe me struggling with chairs and tables is not really a great way to begin a meal.
We are beings connected to everything else in this universe. And although we are all part of this infinite playground we are all experiencing different situations in very different ways.
I remember one time I went with my family to an amusement park. We decided to enter to a roller coaster type of game and the truth is it was a very interesting experience.
My daughters were thrilled and enjoying every second of it, I was wishing the ride ended as soon as possible. They even felt the ride was a little slower they had expected. For me it took too long to end and the speed was dazzling. Continue reading →