Leaving them behind

 

I remember one day, when I was a little child, that I was afraid of losing my toys, I felt very troubled with that thought.  My mother asked me why I was so upset, and I told her I was afraid of growing up, because I loved playing with my toys and I had never saw an adult playing with toys. (I was so wrong then).

My mother smiled and told me that I would not need my toys as a grown up, and that Life always gives you something in return.

I could not understand that at that time, but I felt a little reassured to hear that.

Some years later when I was in my early adolescence, I felt the same “fear of loss” when a very close friend of mine moved abroad.

I thought the end of the world had arrived for me, and that nothing would be the same anymore, I would never meet anyone like him and nobody else would share my hobbies, tastes and adventures again. Continue reading

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I cannot learn for you

For you who want to learn everything right now.

Sometimes we wish other people would know what we know, and they could do what we do and be as good as we are at doing some things.

We get frustrated when our children or those people close to us cannot see the world the same way we do.  We think that if only they could see things from our own perspective, things would be so much easier for them.

It is so difficult sometimes trying to explain some situations when we see them from the outside.  But for the people “inside” things look complex and overwhelming.  And of course, we cannot understand why they cannot see things that are so “obvious” to us.

But in these cases, we are guilty as well, we rarely stop to think than the others have a very different learning path then our own.  They do need to go through the difficulties and “problems” they are facing now in order to grow and become wiser.  In fact, you are doing the same thing right now, that is why we are all here.          Continue reading

Your power

 

In a time when everybody is competing with everyone else, sometimes we find people who seem to have everything we haven’t got, people who know everything we ignore, and people who can do everything we are unable to do.

There are times when we feel inferior, suddenly you find yourself in a group of people with higher experience, knowledge and strength, and it is then when you begin to underestimate yourself. Comparisons are never good, they are totally unnecessary.

Most times it is a good practice to take advantage of that situation and learn as much as you can from them. That is a great way to get experience and increase your knowledge.

In my case, it took me some time to learn and appreciate the opportunity to be in a team with the best of the best. Even when I was the youngest and most inexperienced person in that group, I never allowed myself to feel intimidated by the others, and in the end, I can say for sure that it has been one of the best lessons In my life.

I learned a very important lesson: “Being you, is your real power.” Continue reading

Pay attention

When I woke up this morning, I saw the date on my calendar and I had to check it twice because I could not believe it was true.

Where did all those days go? How come we are so advanced into the year? Time flies and when we try to look back to see where did time go, we realise that we have completely lost track of it.

I cannot believe that ten years ago my life was completely different, my mentality was different and even my life style was different.

Many of my friends and people I worked with, are no longer among us.  When I began making a list of all the people who had left, I am amazed of how long the list has become. Where have all they gone?

Even my tastes and hobbies are no longer the same. I still enjoy many old things but my interests and activities have changed so much. Some of them in a radical way.

Yes, I am getting old but I do not feel old yet. Maybe time has passed so fast I didn´t have time to realise it.

But the more I analyse it, the more I realise that I missed out a whole decade of my life without being aware of it.

One day you wake up and your life is completely different and good friends and circumstances are gone for ever.

I am sure we all have in our mind, fond memories of good old times that we suddenly remember and make us feel nostalgic.

No matter how hard some periods are, there will always be moments, details, people, and so on, that will fill our hearts with a warm feeling in the future.

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What you are not

 

I have met many people who are convinced they are what they are not. And when you hold an idea in your mind long enough, it becomes part of your reality.

The problem is, that when you are holding in your mind the wrong concept, then the outside world will cause you more harm than good.

For instance, I know a friend whose parents told him all the time he was not good at math.  They repeated him all the time he was a failure in math and other sciences. Fortunately for him and for many of us, he ended up listening to his inner voice that always told him he really liked math and he ended up being a wonderful math teacher who loves spreading his knowledge to his students and has been teaching several generations the magic of math. Continue reading

Experience

 

I was talking to an older friend, about his life and the experience he has gained through the years.

As a child, I had the idea that life gives us experience through different events and that every old person was wise and experienced in all areas of life.

I always thought that someone who had been on this planet for many decades had been able to gather all the knowledge in the world, but that idea began to fade as I grew up and had to work with many old people.

My friend who has been on this Earth for a little more of 8 decades, was amazed with my concepts and told me that experience and strength were not dependent of the age but on endurance. Continue reading

And now what?

 

“…So I began to visualise the end results I wanted to see in my life and then I stood there staring at the ceiling in silence wondering what to do next.” He said.

“Well after visualising what you want to manifest, what´s next is to follow your heart, you need to take a step towards what you want to get. If you don’t do anything, even taking a little step so your action moves the rest of the Universe, nothing is going to happen.” Was my answer.

“Ok, ok I know all that, I have read it a thousand times, but the thing is that right now, I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO! I have done everything I know I can do, I have NO idea what the next step is and I need YOU to help me to find out what should I do now. There is nothing more enervating than wishing something and having no idea what to do about it, I cannot keep staring at the ceiling my whole life.” He said desperately.

“Ok, I understand, I have been there many times before. After you have done everything you can and/or you know you can do about it, what is next is to use the biggest force that can help you manifest in your life what you need: Gratitude.” Continue reading

Go out and help

I had no idea how to repair a scratch on the paint of a metallic surface and I was going mad trying to find some video online that showed me how to do it.

I tried some suggestions but they were not what I needed. There are not many answers online for my particular problem.

So, I was about to quit and accept to live with that scratch when, while walking in a busy street, I saw an old man creating real masterpieces on metallic plates with his fingers and a few other handmade tools.

I stood there for a few minutes contemplating in awe the ability of that man and the wonderful paintings he was creating in a few minutes, right before an admired crowd.

After a while, he began to pick up his belongings and his unsold paintings, so I decided to approach him and ask for his advice on how to solve my problem. Continue reading

The pain in change

Have you noticed that when facing new circumstances, new situations like a new job, moving to a new house, a new relationship, etc. We react in many different ways?

Fear is the first feeling to jump into our heart. And sometimes that fear is the main reason because we reject change so much.

And it is understandable since change could be a very traumatic experience at first.

I remember when I was a child to be afraid of jumping into a swimming pool because my memory of the first contact with water at a different temperature was not very enjoyable.  It took me a long time to slowly crawl into the pool and it was not a very pleasant event.

Of course once this “traumatic” experience was passed it was almost impossible to take me out of the pool, but to “convince” me to dive into it first thing in the morning was a very difficult task. Continue reading

The best I can do

I still have problems defining when I have to stop trying to do things. On one side my mind tells me to “make things happen” and the other side says “do not force things and go with the flow”.  And that is like trying to drive with one foot on the accelerator and the other on the brake at the same time.

I know, sometimes life asks you to go beyond your normal efforts in order to achieve more meaningful things and sometimes you need to allow things to freely flow because with your pressure you are only slowing things down.

But how do you know when acting one way and when acting the other? Continue reading