Starting once more

I have heard often that deciding to begin something is a very difficult part of life. And yes, many times we waste a lot of time trying to determine what is the best course of action for our next step.

Deciding how to begin, could be very stressful but, what about starting all over again?

When you face something new you could be driven by enthusiasm, excitement, expectations and sometimes just plain ignorance of what is ahead of you.

But when you are facing something you have tried before and failed, your decisions could be loaded with anxiety to fail once more. Your past mistakes are huge ghosts difficult to overcome most times.  They are there to remind you that you were there before and you did something wrong and therefore you could repeat that error once again. Continue reading

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You have survived

When I was a child I found happy faces everywhere I looked.  Now it is getting more difficult to find them around.  Probably as a child I did not put much attention to other people’s mood, the people I looked at was happier or I was not trained to see a sad or depressed face yet.

“Those were other times” some would answer, “People then had fewer worries, these times are more difficult” is a common response nowadays.

I am not sure how to classify it, but yes, finding happy faces is not as easy for me lately.  Should I move to a different country? Well, not exactly, after travelling a lot I have found all kind of people everywhere, but thanks to the internet now you can talk to people on the other side of the planet in real time and realise that they are not having it easier there either. Continue reading

Are you collapsing?

Sometimes we feel things in our emotional bag are getting too heavy to carry around and then our inner strength fails and we end up falling down to the ground.

Besides the pain and numbness this fall causes in our heart, we finally decide to get up again, but sometimes even when we are back in our feet once more we feel our soul is shattered and we cannot put our pieces back together.

Being in this zone is something we all as humans have to experience many times in our life in order to learn and master our journey.  Yes, we all have been there and we will come back many times. What changes and shows your mastery is how long do you spend in that state. Continue reading

Your best friend

I know we all talk “bad” about ourselves from time to time: “I am so stupid!”, “how silly of me…”,” Man! I am so clumsy.” And so on.

Sometimes without even realising we keep “insulting” ourselves the whole day. And although our conscious mind wouldn´t pay much attention on it, our subconscious mind does.

Thus creating our “hidden” programming.

A friend of mine (who once was my math teacher as well) was an excellent tennis player.  He trained after his classes 5 or 6 hours every day.

But out of a “fake modesty” he began to underestimate his own abilities when talking to other people. He told me he felt bad talking in a good way about his game. He didn’t want to sound boastful or arrogant. So he began to talk “bad” about his skills. Continue reading

“Fast method”

We have talked many times about the importance of cycles in life. We are now used to do the things in faster ways than before. In the old times making a cake could take hours, then the instant cakes boxes arrived and it would take us almost an hour to have it on the table, nowadays  we rather go and buy one at the bakery so we don´t have to waste time making it.

This doesn’t apply only to fast-food, we are in the search for “fast-anything”, we seem to be too busy trying to accomplish a hundred thing in our agenda every day and we end up doing two or three things actually.

We are even trying to find faster things methods to reach Nirvana. Now we don’t want to go through the whole process of reaching enlightenment, we want to be a Buddha, and we want it NOW. Continue reading

I won’t fail this time either.

“Yes, I have made a lot of mistakes, I have taken very bad decisions and I am still trying to figure out how to set things right in many aspects of my life, but I don’t think I have failed. I did everything I could in the way I thought it was right, I tried my best to do the things in the only way I knew and yes, I know, I have harmed people I love at times, I have even harmed people I don’t know directly but all I can say is that I didn’t do anything on purpose. I never meant to do anything wrong to anyone in anyway.” I told my friend while we walked in the park. Continue reading

You are on your own

I was surprised to listen to her saying that they shouldn´t be together because they didn’t bring the best in each other. And I was surprised because I have heard that even from marriage counsellors, psychologists, doctors, lawyers and many other people who are supposed to be a little more knowledgeable.

Maybe that is why so many relationships have been and still are nowadays, doomed to fail.

You are responsible of your life, you are responsible to shine with your own light regardless of who you are with or what is going on around you.  You don’t depend on anyone else for that, you don’t need their permission, guidance nor anything else to be yourself. Please do not think that you need to “adjust” your personal brightness level to match the person beside you.  You NEED TO BE YOU.  You MUST be yourself.

If you find someone to love then fine, you are lucky. If you haven’t yet found someone to love then they will soon come, but NEVER, please never expect someone else to bring out the best in you.  That is your own job.  And never blame anyone else for not being the best version of yourself.

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The mine

I guess you have heard the story of the man who bought an old abandoned gold mine and after digging a little at the place where the previous owner had gave up digging, he found the richest gold vein in the region.

Just when the former owner had given up and abandoned the mine, the new owner just had to dig a little deeper to find the treasure.

Have you ever asked yourself if that happened to you in some area of your life?

Have you ever dropped a project, a dream or just the hope to continue something that was significant to your life? Continue reading