It is not personal

I was observing an elderly man in the underground station who seem to be very upset, walking from one side to the other and talking to himself all the time.

A group of students were playing, shouting, and pushing one another near this man. Suddenly one of the students tripped and fell right in front of that man, making him fall, the old man obviously got really mad, yelling and accusing the young guy of attacking him. But the student instead of apologising and helping the old man to get on his feet again, he began answering back to him calling him blind and useless.

The elderly man of course, got even more furious and stood up trying to punch the student, most people saw the scene from this point since all the shouting had attracted their attention until that moment, but they didn’t see the beginning of the incident.

So when they saw a grown up man trying to hit a young lad, they began attacking him and this incident turned into a whole mess. Continue reading

Doing it right

One of the most common questions I hear all the time is: what am I doing wrong?

Sometimes we do things the best way we can or we keep doing things as usual but all the time asking ourselves: what am I doing wrong?

We are so obsessed with perfectionism that instead of concentrate our efforts on finding better ways to do things, we focus on our insecurity and doubts and without realising it, we are limiting our performance and causing the delay we are complaining about. Continue reading

Where is change?

I had a friend from Croatia whose dream was to go to sleep in one room and wake up in a different one.  She loved change in every aspect of her life.

It turned out that she had a more “stable” (boring) life and I was the one who kept traveling a lot and waking up in different hotel rooms and train seats.   Sometimes I didn’t even know where I was so it was like a nice game to discover in what City or country we had arrived that morning. Continue reading