Reference points

It is very difficult to understand many concepts or even know where you are located right now without a reference point, which is a mark that allows you to compare or locate your position relative to external elements.

Our brain is a super computer that keeps comparing and evaluating everything around us all the time. Besides all the other things the brain has to do to keep us alive. So we actually are not aware of all the impressive processes our brain has to perform 24/7.

But as ironic as it sounds, Life gives us strange ways sometimes for us to compare and set new reference points in and learn our lessons, many times the hard way.

Sometimes you get tired of your own town, city, country, etc. So you decide to travel. Then you see new things, you meet new people with new customs, you try new food and so on. After a while, you begin to compare those new experiences with your home and then you begin to feel nostalgic and begin feeling the wish to go back. Continue reading

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The best I can do

I still have problems defining when I have to stop trying to do things. On one side my mind tells me to “make things happen” and the other side says “do not force things and go with the flow”.  And that is like trying to drive with one foot on the accelerator and the other on the brake at the same time.

I know, sometimes life asks you to go beyond your normal efforts in order to achieve more meaningful things and sometimes you need to allow things to freely flow because with your pressure you are only slowing things down.

But how do you know when acting one way and when acting the other? Continue reading

Are you collapsing?

Sometimes we feel things in our emotional bag are getting too heavy to carry around and then our inner strength fails and we end up falling down to the ground.

Besides the pain and numbness this fall causes in our heart, we finally decide to get up again, but sometimes even when we are back in our feet once more we feel our soul is shattered and we cannot put our pieces back together.

Being in this zone is something we all as humans have to experience many times in our life in order to learn and master our journey.  Yes, we all have been there and we will come back many times. What changes and shows your mastery is how long do you spend in that state. Continue reading

A safer place

Sometimes life seems so “illogical”, “unexplainable”, “unfair”, etc. The world look as a heinous place to live and everyone around us seem to be “out to get us”.

You try to understand what is going on and why everybody is so “mean” to you, since you are such a nice person!

Sometimes you wonder why the ones you love the most seem to be the ones who hurt you frequently and more deeply. Continue reading

Life lessons

Many people refer to their life experiences as “lessons from the University of Life”. Meaning that life itself is an abundant source of knowledge, experiences and very valuable lessons. Probably the best lessons in life are absolutely free. Or maybe not so “free” because the price we have to pay to receive them and learn from them is having to experience them in our life and that sometimes, is a very high price to pay.

Today I am feeling especially grateful for all my life lessons, I am fortunate to say I have experienced some very difficult ones from the best teachers in the universe: my “problems” and “hard times” have been excellent teachers and I am so grateful for them. Besides I have and still am learning from other people who have been kind enough to share their experiences with me and others who I have been able to observe from the distance as well. Continue reading

I respect your ways

I know you have heard many times that we are all different. No matter how long we have lived in the same community, in the same house and even in the same family. We have a lot in common and yet, we are still different.

You might like to add sugar in your tea, I prefer a little more cream in it instead. You might prefer a bagel with it, I prefer a ring doughnut. You might like to talk about politics, I rather skip that subject.

We can be so different in so many aspects and yet, we can share a nice tea moment, each enjoying, at the same time, our own personal pleasures. Continue reading

You are on your own

I was surprised to listen to her saying that they shouldn´t be together because they didn’t bring the best in each other. And I was surprised because I have heard that even from marriage counsellors, psychologists, doctors, lawyers and many other people who are supposed to be a little more knowledgeable.

Maybe that is why so many relationships have been and still are nowadays, doomed to fail.

You are responsible of your life, you are responsible to shine with your own light regardless of who you are with or what is going on around you.  You don’t depend on anyone else for that, you don’t need their permission, guidance nor anything else to be yourself. Please do not think that you need to “adjust” your personal brightness level to match the person beside you.  You NEED TO BE YOU.  You MUST be yourself.

If you find someone to love then fine, you are lucky. If you haven’t yet found someone to love then they will soon come, but NEVER, please never expect someone else to bring out the best in you.  That is your own job.  And never blame anyone else for not being the best version of yourself.

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What you expect…

I must admit that sometimes my mind flies higher than it should and creates over amplified sceneries of events.

It is true that we are experiencing life depending on our ideas, beliefs, points of view, etc.  But sometimes our expectative is based on the wrong mental image and therefore, this leads us to pain and disappointment, or fear and stillness. Continue reading

Endings

When we see the end of a year, a cycle, a relationship, a school term, etc., we tend to react with sadness or joy, depending on how we judged that period of time.

But what is new inside your heart and mind after the good and the bad within that old cycle?  All those “negative” things that appeared during that time has brought you what new lessons? How are you going to react next time to similar events? Do you feel stronger now? Can you see those times of frustration and anger as growing experiences? How will you use those experiences in the future? Continue reading