The dichotomy of silence

 

When you see someone suffering, and there is nothing you can do to help them out of their misery, most times you will try to comfort them with consoling words.

In those cases, the right words are difficult to find, and many times we end up saying the wrong ones even when our intention was good.

We have talked many times about the advantages and blessings of silence, how important it is to keep quiet when there is risk to hurt someone else.

But as everything else in this Life, there are always two sides for everything and falling in its extremes is extremely easy.

Too much of anything can do a lot of harm. Continue reading

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Just Love them

Everything in this life has two sides, whether we see them or not. But we tend to see, or to focus on just one side.

For instance, temperature: we can visualise it like a scale if you want, the cold on the left side and the hot side on the right to follow the Cartesian style.  – 100° is VERY cold then you keep going to the right:-90°, -50°, -10°, until you get to 0°. Then if you keep travelling the scale towards the right extreme, then you will see the positive numbers 20°, 70°, 100° and so forth, and the further you go the hottest it will be.

We can apply that “scale model” to almost everything in our life.  Love inclusive. Continue reading

Forgiving

I have heard lately many people talking about forgiving others. I have been questioned many times about how I could forgive betrayal and lies so easily.

The truth is, I forgive myself first.  I am conscious that I have allowed those people to hurt me in the first place. I have gave them the power to do so. I have released my power and then, the harm is done.

So I always begin by forgiving myself.

The rest is much easier. Continue reading

I won’t fail this time either.

“Yes, I have made a lot of mistakes, I have taken very bad decisions and I am still trying to figure out how to set things right in many aspects of my life, but I don’t think I have failed. I did everything I could in the way I thought it was right, I tried my best to do the things in the only way I knew and yes, I know, I have harmed people I love at times, I have even harmed people I don’t know directly but all I can say is that I didn’t do anything on purpose. I never meant to do anything wrong to anyone in anyway.” I told my friend while we walked in the park. Continue reading

Beginning

When we open a book or a movie begins, we take the first lines or scene as the “beginning” of that story.

Even if in the book or movie there might be some references to other stories or events way before the beginning or the actual story, (actually where we were introduced to it) we always take that first scene or line as “the beginning”. Continue reading

Allow

You would be surprised to know of all the things you give permission to harm you.

From old ideas and concepts to the food and medicines you willingly take each day.

It is true that we do something about it until we face the terrible consequences of our choices, but I guess it is human nature. We have all, at some point in our life, been in that situation. Continue reading