What you are not

 

I have met many people who are convinced they are what they are not. And when you hold an idea in your mind long enough, it becomes part of your reality.

The problem is, that when you are holding in your mind the wrong concept, then the outside world will cause you more harm than good.

For instance, I know a friend whose parents told him all the time he was not good at math.  They repeated him all the time he was a failure in math and other sciences. Fortunately for him and for many of us, he ended up listening to his inner voice that always told him he really liked math and he ended up being a wonderful math teacher who loves spreading his knowledge to his students and has been teaching several generations the magic of math. Continue reading

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Embrace it

 

I have heard so many times that you have to embrace change and difficulties when they come, that I thought I had totally understood the idea. And probably I had, but as usual when it comes to apply our knowledge in real life, things become difficult.

We are all excellent for theory but when practice time arrives, the story is quite different, same thing when giving advice to others, we already know what to say to them in any situation THEY have to face, but when we are in the same predicament, all those answers and solutions vanish from our head.

Few years ago after living for a long time very comfortably in a nice area of my city, they sold the house I was renting and I was immediately required to move to a different place. That was really traumatic for me, because it had all the ingredients for a home brewed tragedy: Continue reading

The Sanctuary

It took me half a day to reach the top of that mountain, a small Buddhist sanctuary stood there lonely in the middle of nothing.

The monk in charge of that small place smiled at me as soon as I reached the entrance and invited me to seat beside him on a wooden bench by the main door.

I looked exhausted and messy after the long climb. He looked radiant and happy. I told him about my great climbing adventure as if it was a once in a lifetime odyssey. He calmly told me he goes to town twice a day, so he does that “odyssey” four times every day.

I remained silent for a while. Continue reading

This was not my plan

When I was a child, I had a very different idea of what my life would be.

I wanted to be an astronaut, an explorer, a fireman, a superhero, an engineer. Well from all these options, I only became the latter.

The truth is I never dreamt of travelling the world, meeting very interesting people from different backgrounds and being who I am today.

I am not judging here, whether it was good or bad to be who I am today; I just know it was the best option for me.

Of course I didn’t accomplish all the things I wanted, at least not yet, you never know what is coming next. But looking in retrospective, I have accomplished many things I never thought possible. Continue reading

The cake

With all the different problems we have to deal with every day, stress is getting more and more a discussion subject everywhere you go.

There are too many people trying to find a way to deal more with stress and we are turning our eyes once more to the old schools.

A method I learnt by accident in a travel, but has proved very effective for me is what I call the “cake method”. Continue reading

There is no time in life to waste

I am not saying you need to get worried about time and hurry to do everything right now before something happens to you. That will stress you more than help you in anyway.

What I mean here is stop thinking that you can leave things for a better time, for another moment, for tomorrow, and so on and so forth.

I have been losing many friends lately. Yes I am guilty for having friends who are older than me. But you know what? Older people have an unbelievable baggage of experiences, accumulated knowledge and life lessons to share with anyone who is willing to listen to them and believe me, they are willing to share their stories with you. Continue reading

Stop looking for reasons to be unhappy

Lately while I am walking on the street I like listening to a couple of sentences from other people’s conversations, not for gossiping reasons, but because if you put together every sentence| you catch “by passing” you create very funny “dialogues”, I guess I could write a novel with all the sentences I have gathered lately!

But once the fun was over and I began to remember a little more of the conversations I overheard on my commuting, I was shocked to discover that most of the conversations refer to those things that people kept focusing on, and these were mostly things that make them unhappy. Continue reading

Words

Few years ago in New York some scientists made a very interesting experiment. They asked kindergarten children to describe the biggest number they could imagine. And since they didn’t have a lot of experience with numbers most of them said the biggest number was one hundred.

They couldn’t conceive a higher number than that. When they were asked how many grains of sand there were in a beach, they all answered: 100.  When they were asked how many stars there were in the universe, they all answered: 100. But in some way, inside their little minds they had a very important concept very clear. No matter what they were asked, they all understood that everything had a finite number. Continue reading