We react too fast to external events nowadays. I am talking about the way we take other people’s words.
You are walking quietly dowd the stree, minding your own business and suddenly someone pops up at the corner and bumps into you. That person began screaming at you as if it was your fault for being in their way and began saying awful things about you. People look at the scene without giving it importance and following their way, but for you it was a very traumatic event.
You cannot understand why that person is in such a rage when you did not even crash against them in purpose.
But you had to listen a whole list of adverbs and probably you even learnt some new ones, without understanding the real reason for it. Continue reading →
Watching him eating so fast was a disgusting view. It seemed as if he thought the world was coming to an end and he should finish his meal in advance.
I was just in the middle of the first course, when he was finishing his last. I was surprised, and at the same time a little displeased since he was not really enjoying his food. I remained silent as he was excusing himself from the table and rushed out of the restaurant without even waiting for my answer.
I was in “judging mode” so, I thought he should learn to take more time for him to enjoy his food besides, it is unhealthy, and in some cases even dangerous to eat too fast.
I finished my meal at my own pace, and my other friend and I left the place talking about more relevant subjects. Continue reading →
When I was a child, I was always questioning why “bad” things existed.
Why God had invented “pain”, “fear”, “sadness” and so on?
We would be much happier if there was no such thing as fear, right? But then, I was explained that without fear I would not be alive today. If fear would not let me know my life is in danger when I approach a precipice, I would continue walking and probably fall to my death. But fear was there to stop me in time and keep me from jumping and getting killed or badly injured.
If that fear were not there to activate my instinct of conservation, then I would easily lose my hand when I cook or work with my electric saw. Or I could get easily killed by walking at night through dangerous places, etc.
You have done your best to be kind, generous, friendly and understanding towards others. You consider yourself a peaceful, relaxed and easy to talk to kind of person. You work on your inner self constantly and take care of your own body as well as you can.
Nevertheless, the people you care the most, keep misunderstanding your words, intentions and actions.
What then, are you doing wrong?
Probably nothing. You are not doing things wrong in purpose. Maybe the only problem you are causing yourself, is worrying too much for what others think about you.
You have no need to care too much for the opinion of others about yourself. As long as you are happy with what you are doing, with the way you are living your life, by reaching your goals and if you are not hurting anyone in the process, it is almost certain that you are not doing anything wrong to them. Continue reading →
“The wish for healing has always been half of health.” – Seneca
Nowadays the word “healing” has been taking different meanings, it can refer to physical healing, moral, mental or spiritual alleviation.
The pharmaceutical industry has been presenting an image of physical healing as something you will obtain only by the consumption of chemical medicaments. Religions have given us the image that spiritual and moral healing (“salvation”) is obtained by attending to a place to worship divinity and follow certain rules implemented by humans etc.
It seems we all have our own concept of healing, but have you noticed that there are people who apparently are searching for healing but that are avoiding it at the same time? Continue reading →
When you set your expectations on someone or something, you are at risk to be disappointed. It is a part of life and it hurts very much, but believe me, it hurts even more when you are the one who is disappointing a loved one.
I know I have done that many times, not willingly of course, but I have disappointed people who had believed in me and, on the other side, I have been disappointed too.
I was in my teen years, so the way I felt and saw things was pretty intense. I was going through a difficult existential crisis and couldn’t control my depression.
I was feeling my world had ended and there was not a feasible solution ahead. Suddenly something happened and I had a strange experience, I was watching myself feeling and thinking negative absurd things. It wasn’t like an out-of-body experience, it was all inside my head, it was as if my brain was divided in two and one side was judging the other. Continue reading →
We hear a lot of people criticising the way others behave. We judge them according to our own parameters, but we ignore the reasons that made those people to act the way they did.
I am sure you have been judged many times, sometimes you found out later, but most times you didn’t, but I am sure you would be surprised to know how your actions impressed other people and how they made a wrong judgement, but never stopped to find out from you, the real reasons for your decisions and behaviours. Continue reading →