I cannot learn for you

For you who want to learn everything right now.

Sometimes we wish other people would know what we know, and they could do what we do and be as good as we are at doing some things.

We get frustrated when our children or those people close to us cannot see the world the same way we do.  We think that if only they could see things from our own perspective, things would be so much easier for them.

It is so difficult sometimes trying to explain some situations when we see them from the outside.  But for the people “inside” things look complex and overwhelming.  And of course, we cannot understand why they cannot see things that are so “obvious” to us.

But in these cases, we are guilty as well, we rarely stop to think than the others have a very different learning path then our own.  They do need to go through the difficulties and “problems” they are facing now in order to grow and become wiser.  In fact, you are doing the same thing right now, that is why we are all here.          Continue reading

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What comes next…

 

I remember when I used to get very nervous when things got difficult and I was not able to see the end of the tunnel.  When life´s colours were of the darkest nature and everything seemed to be doomed to failure. I felt lost and terrified.

It took me years of getting up and falling again, to try and fail and of learning and relearning the same lessons again and again, to realise that what comes next might not be as bad/terrible as it seems at first.

I used to give up as soon as things got difficult, as soon as I could not see the end of the road and when people told me that I was a lost case with no hope whatsoever.  That is, I gave up constantly.

But one day you get tired of listening to what the others try to put into your mind, you stop believing and living the life others are trying to impose you and then you begin to shine with your own true colours. Continue reading

Your pain

When we look back into our past, we can see many periods when things looked impossible to bear.  Tough situations when our hope seemed to be vanished but, in the bottom of our heart, hope was the only thing that kept us alive.

But once we overcome those situations and we look at things from a more relaxed perspective, we can see all the “advantages” of those painful times.

You learn to differentiate true friends from those who are only there pretending they are on your side but, the moment they know that you need their help, they look the other way leaving you alone. Continue reading

That obstacle

I was in a hurry, I was walking faster than usual, and that means very fast because I always walk rapidly, when suddenly right after turning to the right on a corner, I found a huge tyre with a tree branch in the middle blocking the pavement.

Who had dared to leave that hindrance in the middle of the pavement??

“Someone might get hurt, didn´t you think of that when you left these things here?” I said in loud voice, in case the culprit was still around waiting to have a laugh when someone bumped into it.” But there was no one there.

I tried to move that big branch to clear the way, and when I began pulling it out I could see a big hole on the floor.  It looked like someone had fallen into it previously and then, in order to avoid someone else to fall again, they moved a big tyre and a tree branch to cover it and that way prevent more accidents.

I stood still there for a while. Continue reading

Your journey

I was exhausted, the four hours walk to the pond in the middle of an uninhabited jungle had been difficult, but nothing compared to the way back.

Climbing back to the top of that valley was a daunting task for me, I was not very used to walk for so many hours in the outdoors, and the Sun was really at its peak hour, so I was really wishing to get back to the car and drive back home.

I had to take little rests from time to time and the closer to the top I got, the more frequent stops I made.

When I was about to reach the last tract, I was making my best effort to pull my body up when all I could see were a pair of perfectly polished shoes in front of my eyes.  My stunned eyes kept going upwards just to observe very well ironed beige trousers, a white shirt and a smiling face who greeted me with a cheerful voice: “Did you enjoy the trip?”, he said. Continue reading

Darkness

 

Watching him eating so fast was a disgusting view.  It seemed as if he thought the world was coming to an end and he should finish his meal in advance.

I was just in the middle of the first course, when he was finishing his last. I was surprised, and at the same time a little displeased since he was not really enjoying his food.  I remained silent as he was excusing himself from the table and rushed out of the restaurant without even waiting for my answer.

I was in “judging mode” so, I thought he should learn to take more time for him to enjoy his food besides, it is unhealthy, and in some cases even dangerous to eat too fast.

I finished my meal at my own pace, and my other friend and I left the place talking about more relevant subjects. Continue reading

Learning from a Yucca tree

 The lesson is everywhere to be found.

If we observe carefully all the time, there is a lesson to be found, a signal, a message, something to learn about.

They say that is hidden knowledge waiting to be found, but is it really hidden? or are we just too distracted to see it.  One we see it, it is no longer “hidden” and most of the time it is actually pretty evident. We just disregard it, but it is usually right in front of us all the time.

Most of our inner strength, our real power is taken from us by the old believes, those that taught us to be meek, and not to shine.

We needed to be “humble” and make ourselves “invisible” lest we be considered, arrogant or boastful.

But we’ll discuss humility some other time. Continue reading

Be there

Sometimes we complain about the lack of support from our family, lack of understanding from our friends and acquaintances and how much we suffer our solitude, instead of learning from it.

When we are in such states of mind, we tend to look for someone to listen to us, we want to be understood, to be supported.

But as soon as we try to find those things in others, we face a cold wall of indifference and our loneliness becomes even bigger.

We all have been there. But have you ever noticed when you were on the other side? Continue reading

Jealousy

We have been educated to be self-centred in many ways.  Of course, you need to have your own things, for your personal use.  And certainly, we all want to have our loved ones near us.

But have you noticed how desperate we get when they go away, even for a little while?

I believe most of us have made some crazy things to get the attention of someone we are interested in or, to keep them by our side.

Jealousy is a big illness, it has caused big tragedies in the history of humanity. It transforms us and affects our whole body and soul.

But something I have noticed and discussed with many people from different backgrounds in life, is the futility of falling into its trap. Continue reading

Follow them

Nothing in my life has arrived by chance. Either good or bad, every situation, person, blessing, problem, teaching, etc.

In some cases, there has been a point on the road where I have been able to see the reason why they appeared in my life. Other might kept their secrets for ever. Time will tell.

There is not a single thing I have learnt in the past that has not become “handy” at some point in my life.  That is why I do not consider “wasted time” to every second I spend learning something new.

There is an old Russian proverb: “Век живи, век учись” (Live a century, study a century).

Learning is a blessing. Its effects in our brain are amazing and actually it has healing properties as well. Continue reading