Life lessons

 

Many people refer to their life experiences as “lessons from the University of Life”. Meaning that life itself is an abundant source of knowledge, experiences and very valuable lessons. Probably the best lessons in life are absolutely free. Or maybe not so “free” because the price we have to pay to receive them and learn from them is having to experience them in our life and that sometimes, is a very high price to pay.

Today I am feeling especially grateful for all my life lessons, I am fortunate to say I have experienced some very difficult ones from the best teachers in the universe: my “problems” and “hard times” have been excellent teachers and I am so grateful for them. Besides I have and still am learning from other people who have been kind enough to share their experiences with me and others who I have been able to observe from the distance as well. Continue reading

It´s about to get easier

I know, these have been very difficult times, lots of tests, lots of lessons yet to learn but, if you look back now, you can contemplate a long and very bumpy road behind you.

If they had told you, in the beginning, that the road ahead of you would be so ragged, probably you would have chosen a different path.  Nevertheless, you are here now, you transited that hilly highway and here you are, taller, stronger, wiser. Congratulations!

When I learnt to skate by myself, I did fall many times, bruised my knees, crashed against other skaters, Streetlights, walls and many other hard objects I found on my way to master it. It was a very painful learning period, but it was totally worth it.

Skating has been for me a wonderful way to feeling myself really free. Feeling the air caressing my face while I glided around the rink, has been one of the most wonderful experiences in my life. Continue reading

The good, the bad and the lesson…

 

From my book Answers II

When I have experienced something difficult or “bad” in my life, usually I took it off my mind for a while and just after the pain had gone I brought it back to my attention.

I had this tendency to look away from the hard or bad lessons in my life, since I considered that if I took all “bad” things in my life from my attention they would not affect me anymore, they would vanish and gone for ever.

But nowadays I take a different approach to those “bad and ugly” events in my life.  I have learnt to appreciate them and put them in a special place in my memories, because if I hadn’t experience them I wouldn’t be here now, I wouldn’t be who I am and I wouldn’t be able to share the lessons and blessings they have brought to my life.

I am not saying I am now a masochist who enjoys suffering and having rough experiences. Not at all. What I am saying is that the tough things I am experiencing now are no longer sending me to the floor and keeping me there all the time Continue reading

You have survived

When I was a child I found happy faces everywhere I looked.  Now it is getting more difficult to find them around.  Probably as a child I did not put much attention to other people’s mood, the people I looked at was happier or I was not trained to see a sad or depressed face yet.

“Those were other times” some would answer, “People then had fewer worries, these times are more difficult” is a common response nowadays.

I am not sure how to classify it, but yes, finding happy faces is not as easy for me lately.  Should I move to a different country? Well, not exactly, after travelling a lot I have found all kind of people everywhere, but thanks to the internet now you can talk to people on the other side of the planet in real time and realise that they are not having it easier there either. Continue reading

The cause

I was talking to a friend about all those bizarre “negative” things and events in our lives.

According to him, his life had always been very harsh and difficult. Many times he had complained about all the things he had to go through to survive, while most of his friends and family had a more relaxed and comfortable life, (at least from his perspective).

He had to overcome several obstacles in his past, in order to reach some things that other people simply obtained or achieved in a very “relaxed” manner, according to his analysis.

He was about to go once more, through the list of difficulties he had to face in his life until this morning, when I was forced to interrupt his litany in order to avoid 45 more minutes of the same old, same old. Continue reading

Your team

I have been reading everywhere about the importance to choose the people you surround yourself with. And I am not talking only about your work team, but the people you spend more time with in your everyday life.

They say we become what we eat, but we become too a little like those who surround us, human beings are imitation creatures, so we end up implementing customs, habits, ideas, concepts, movements, and many other things almost without noticing it.

Have you noticed when friends of yours share expressions, taste, manners, slang and some other characteristics that they didn’t showed before, and after sometime of “hanging out” with mutual friends or acquaintances, they begin to behave in similar ways. Continue reading

Solving problems in a “creative” way

“I am very good at solving everybody´s problems, I always find different options for others to follow, but I don´t understand what happens when I try to find my own solution, my mind gets blurry and I cannot think straight.” An old friend was telling me the other day.

“Maybe you are taking your own problems too “seriously” or to “viscerally” and that emotional charge is impeding you to see things clearly” I answered while understanding perfectly what he was talking about and feeling the guilt of having been there too many times already.

He looked at me with an astonished look on his eyes and quickly answered: “I am trying to be logical, I am looking at things as they are.”

“No, you are looking at the things as you are now. You are interpreting them through your own particular filters, that´s it.” I said closing my mouth really hard in order to keep more words from coming out from it. Continue reading

Life lessons

Many people refer to their life experiences as “lessons from the University of Life”. Meaning that life itself is an abundant source of knowledge, experiences and very valuable lessons. Probably the best lessons in life are absolutely free. Or maybe not so “free” because the price we have to pay to receive them and learn from them is having to experience them in our life and that sometimes, is a very high price to pay.

Today I am feeling especially grateful for all my life lessons, I am fortunate to say I have experienced some very difficult ones from the best teachers in the universe: my “problems” and “hard times” have been excellent teachers and I am so grateful for them. Besides I have and still am learning from other people who have been kind enough to share their experiences with me and others who I have been able to observe from the distance as well. Continue reading

Your worth 

She saw me walking on the street and greeted me very effusively. “I wanted to so much to see you! I finally finished your book and I loved it! I am going to read it again!”

“But the problem is that I want to be able to do the things you talk about in the book, but I don’t think is as easy as it sounds” She complained.

I thanked her for reading one of my books and just told her: “I never said it was easy, nothing in that book is really easy. It is a process, everything worth it takes time. I am just sharing in my books my experiences and own ideas, but my main purpose is to encourage my readers to find their own answers and methods. We are all different and have different circumstances going on in our lives, but we are all in the same boat, so we can find common mind-sets and procedures to have a happy journey.” Was my reply. Continue reading

Admit it!

Sometimes we try to hide our true feelings and emotions and when someone ask us how we are or how are we feeling our answers is a simple: “I am fine thank you” with a timid and brief smile, even if inside of us we just want to cry and bump our head against the wall.

Most people will know inside, that we are just pretending and hiding our real feelings but will not attempt to interrogate us about what is really going on in our heart and mind.  That is alright, social rules called good manners and respect maybe. Could be a lack of interest too but that is not the problem. Continue reading