I have seen an increase on those internet sites that promise to help you meet the love of your life and put you in contact with people you can fall in love with.
Some, promise you to introduce you to single people in your area, other sites promise to help you meet people for a relationship, regardless of their marital status, or yours.
Most of these sites have sections where you can learn to interact with your prospects and offer all kind of advices on how to start a conversation, how to dress properly for the first date, how to control your body language so you can convey the right message and the do’s and don´ts when you are meeting others for the first time.
Many of this “guides” teach you how to conceal your defects, how to show off your “qualities”, how to look as a “good catch” for the other person and how to leave a good impression after the first date, so you can take the next step into the relationship.
Most of these manuals never tell you how to be more authentic, so others see the real you from the beginning though.
I would like to find in those sites more manuals, where they teach you how to fall in love with the only person who will really be with you till the end of your days: Yourself.
The world is trying to mould you to be liked the rest, they tell you what you need to change, what you must cover and pretend, so you might fit into the standards needed to be considered an adequate person.
But why is it, that they never tell you that you are already perfect, that you can be liked, accepted and loved just the way you are. Why nobody is telling you that you have no need to hide, pretend or change anything, so you can be liked and shine with your own light?
How could anybody else fall in love with you when you keep telling yourself that you are not worthy, not perfect, not beautiful enough.
How could anybody be attracted to someone who is looking at the bad side of everything in themselves? Continue reading