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I have got a friend who is very impatient and every time you talk to him and you are trying to finish a sentence he keeps saying the first word that comes to his mind, maybe to help you to finish it faster. Sometimes is the word you were about to say but most times is the wrong word.

People usually look at him with anger and probably they think something like: “Thank you, but I do not need you to help me talk, now if you let me continue…” He realises you are not very happy with his interrupting and keeps silent for a few seconds and two or three sentences later he begins to interrupt again.

Needless to say, if you are not perfectly focused on what you are saying, all his interruptions make your mind drift away from the main subject and you end up talking about a totally different thing. Continue reading

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Drama

They say we learnt to draw attention to ourselves when we were babies by crying, the louder we cried, the faster we received the attention.

This behaviour continues until our adulthood and as it still works for us sometimes, so we tend to sharpen our skills and become drama masters very soon.

Some people master the art of causing pity to others so they can get what they want.  Some learn how to blame others so they can be seen as victims of external factors/people and, I must admit some of them are real good at it. Continue reading

Your deeds

I used to think that trophies and medals, awards and acknowledgements were a sign of success. And maybe in most cases this is so, but I was shocked to learn how easy is nowadays to buy or get one when you have enough cash in your wallet or you know the “right” people.

I do not usually accept those things because I feel I haven´t really earn them yet. I know so many people with years of experience, hard work, perseverance and especially great results to show and, most times, they are ignored. Continue reading

“Fast method”

We have talked many times about the importance of cycles in life. We are now used to do the things in faster ways than before. In the old times making a cake could take hours, then the instant cakes boxes arrived and it would take us almost an hour to have it on the table, nowadays  we rather go and buy one at the bakery so we don´t have to waste time making it.

This doesn’t apply only to fast-food, we are in the search for “fast-anything”, we seem to be too busy trying to accomplish a hundred thing in our agenda every day and we end up doing two or three things actually.

We are even trying to find faster things methods to reach Nirvana. Now we don’t want to go through the whole process of reaching enlightenment, we want to be a Buddha, and we want it NOW. Continue reading

The art of healing

 “The wish for healing has always been half of health.” – Seneca

Nowadays the word “healing” has been taking different meanings, it can refer to physical healing, moral, mental or spiritual alleviation.

The pharmaceutical industry has been presenting an image of physical healing as something you will obtain only by the consumption of chemical medicaments. Religions have given us the image that spiritual and moral healing (“salvation”) is obtained by attending to a place to worship divinity and follow certain rules implemented by humans etc.

It seems we all have our own concept of healing, but have you noticed that there are people who apparently are searching for healing but that are avoiding it at the same time? Continue reading

Square one

Most people of a certain age I know like to see their life backwards. That is, they like to see all the things they have accomplished during their lives. How things were tough once and they were able to overcome the obstacles and fight to get what they wanted.  But 95% of them when I ask them if they would go through all of that from square one, they answer: NO!

So most of them have lived a life full of difficulties and have learnt to overcome them and they are now in a privileged place because they passed their tests. Nevertheless they don’t like the idea of starting all over again.

They feel they have reached the goal and now they can just rest and live looking at the past for the rest of their lives. Continue reading

Don’t touch it

Being on computers since…. Well, a long time, yes even before Gopher existed (the grandfather of Google, yahoo, etc.) I know, I know I am an ancient soul. Even before the web and, when telnet was the most advanced “communication tool”, I have been observing the same pattern.

One of the first things I do when someone calls me hysterical at 3 am asking for help because their computer is broken is to ask them: What did you installed before that happened?

Usually their answer is “That a friend who know everything about computers, installed a program or modified something in the operating system”. Continue reading

Balance

I was trying to keep my balance by walking on a small line drawn on the pavement on my way back home.  I was visualising the way we sometimes try to keep the “balance” in our lives.

Have you seen how the most we try to “force” a new habit, the harder it is?

Food, exercise, positive thinking, new ideas, diets,etc.

The harder I tried to walk on the line without losing my balance, the harder it was to keep it. I easily lost it and I had to make an effort to get back “on the line”. Continue reading

The puzzle

I was listening to a group or people in an event who were talking about how good they were at different expressions of art. Some of them were great painters, others were magnificent musicians, some others were masters in a few more disciplines and that is perfect, you might expect to find all that talent in a gallery. That is normal.

But what was really interesting, at least to me, was the other things they loved and had nothing to do with their main talent.  There was a painter who loved to cook deserts, grow his own vegetables and hiking.  A guitar player who loved bird watching, web design and making his own marmalade. Continue reading

Travelling

Travelling means different things for every person. I remember I got very excited when I was a child as holydays approached. I knew we were going to travel somewhere.

Some holidays, we went to visit family and after a while that became a little boring because every occasion we were doing the same things with the same people and going to the same places.  Fortunately my mother decided we needed to see new places and began taking guided tours to different places everywhere. Continue reading