Satisfaction guaranteed

 

For many years I believed in the standard model of happiness, you know, what everybody tells you that you need to have, wear and live to be a real happy person.

Of course, I was never able to reach those standards, therefore I believed I was not a good person.

If I was not able to accomplish all those requirements, then I should be a loser. After all I was able to see many achievers around me. And if I was the only one who was living in mediocrity then something should be wrong with me.

Those where very difficult years for me.

I couldn’t understand quite well, how was it possible that many of my friends and acquaintances were leaving a perfect life, while I was really struggling to keep my pieces together. Continue reading

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Uneasy

I woke up feeling uneasy. I couldn´t understand why I was feeling that way, because there was no apparent reason for that mood.

At the beginning I thought I was feeling like that because of a bad dream I could not remember. But as the morning advanced, I understood that feeling was the result of a long chain of events that had finally collapsed upon my shoulders, causing this gloomy mood on me.

While trying to find the cause of this awful feeling, I realised that I was digging into all the negative events that appeared in my life in a while. As I was trying to find in each one of them the “real culprit” for my actual temper, my soul felt more and more depressed.

But the worst part was, that with every event I recalled, I felt more and more dejected. This was not helping me at all. Continue reading

Find them now!

Some days are difficult to forget. If you had a day full of wonderful times, that day becomes a memory of a lifetime. If you had a day full of problems and bitter moments, that day will too become a memory of a lifetime.

Happily, those days are very rare.  Usually our days are a mix of good and bad incidents.

The only difference is that most people are used to focus on those events that make them feel bad. We keep them in a special compartment in our mind and it seems we feel a strange “pleasure” by bringing them back to memory frequently in reunions that end up being “adversity competitions” where the one who has suffered the most wins.

I know playing the victim help some people to bring more attention upon them, and yes, who does not enjoy the “15 minutes of fame” from time to time. Continue reading

Wordless

 

You do not need to “share” all your experiences with the rest of the world.

Most of the things we really enjoy are things we cannot punt into words.

I know nowadays it is more important for many people to upload photos of their last trip to their social networks than taking the time to enjoy the moment for themselves.

The other day I was talking with a friend who told me that he had not taken any videos or photographs of his trip because I felt he lost a lot of time taking the photo instead of filling his mind and soul with that moment.   Continue reading

Pay attention

When I woke up this morning, I saw the date on my calendar and I had to check it twice because I could not believe it was true.

Where did all those days go? How come we are so advanced into the year? Time flies and when we try to look back to see where did time go, we realise that we have completely lost track of it.

I cannot believe that ten years ago my life was completely different, my mentality was different and even my life style was different.

Many of my friends and people I worked with, are no longer among us.  When I began making a list of all the people who had left, I am amazed of how long the list has become. Where have all they gone?

Even my tastes and hobbies are no longer the same. I still enjoy many old things but my interests and activities have changed so much. Some of them in a radical way.

Yes, I am getting old but I do not feel old yet. Maybe time has passed so fast I didn´t have time to realise it.

But the more I analyse it, the more I realise that I missed out a whole decade of my life without being aware of it.

One day you wake up and your life is completely different and good friends and circumstances are gone for ever.

I am sure we all have in our mind, fond memories of good old times that we suddenly remember and make us feel nostalgic.

No matter how hard some periods are, there will always be moments, details, people, and so on, that will fill our hearts with a warm feeling in the future.

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And it was never the same…

After many years of absence, I was finally able to return to the capital of the USA.  A very dear place to me since I lived and studied there for some years.

A very impressive place with its white buildings and monuments, I was so excited to go and see how things were there now.  And yes, that was a big thing in my mind because, how would that place look to my eyes now?

Would the same people be still around? Would I find my friends and classmates living their lives as usual? What would be different nowadays? Would I like the changes? Continue reading

Your trophy room

I used to enjoy observing in silence all the treasures a friend had in his studio.  The walls were covered by photos, trophies, awards and things of that kind.

Throughout his life he had met and befriended many celebrities from different parts of the world and some of them had been key elements in human history.

One day, as I discovered more hidden “treasures” as autographed books, honours and acknowledgements. My friend arrived and sat at his desk.  He amusingly observed as I enjoyed myself watching his amazing collection of memories.

To him these were witnesses of his own story. His achievements, failures, good and bad times, but always a memory of the lesson learnt was present in each object therein. Continue reading

The pain in change

Have you noticed that when facing new circumstances, new situations like a new job, moving to a new house, a new relationship, etc. We react in many different ways?

Fear is the first feeling to jump into our heart. And sometimes that fear is the main reason because we reject change so much.

And it is understandable since change could be a very traumatic experience at first.

I remember when I was a child to be afraid of jumping into a swimming pool because my memory of the first contact with water at a different temperature was not very enjoyable.  It took me a long time to slowly crawl into the pool and it was not a very pleasant event.

Of course once this “traumatic” experience was passed it was almost impossible to take me out of the pool, but to “convince” me to dive into it first thing in the morning was a very difficult task. Continue reading

Tired

I have tried to sleep more hours to see if my weariness would fade away. But I kept feeling tired, with no energy whatsoever.  When your inner self is tired, all the physical rest and sleeping will not make a difference.

There are days when you wake up and life hurts, therefore you resent it and will reflect it in your physical body.  And of course it will take you longer to stand on your feet, but any way you have to do it.

You see, it is easier for our brain to recall bad memories.  We usually remember more the bad events than the good ones, so we keep them in the first row of our conscious mind and that could be one of the main reasons why we keep repeating our mistakes and manifesting our worst fears faster. Continue reading

You´ll be missing this.

When I was a little child I dreamt with being a grown up and doing whatever I wanted without having to ask permission or receiving help from anyone. Being a grown up should be something marvellous!

I remember those times now and wish I could go back to being spoiled and ignoring many things that happen every day around me.

Years later while I was waiting for my daughter to stop crying and allow us to go back to sleep, while swinging her cradle, I remember wishing she could grow up fast and see her as a beautiful girl who would go to sleep quietly and fast! Continue reading