There is a reason

The afternoon was beautiful, the blue sky showed just a few clouds in the distance and the river Cherwell remained calmed as usual with a few couples punting in the distance.

My friend professor H, is very well known for his discoveries in physics and specially for his theories in quantum mechanics. But that evening, his lesson had nothing to do with the behaviour of particles or other dimensions.

He was more quiet than usual, but today he looked more distant than other times. I didn’t want to interrupt his thoughts and I just limited to walk beside him in silence.

He suddenly stopped and said in a loud voice: “Everything is just about understanding” and continued his promenade. Continue reading

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You have survived

When I was a child I found happy faces everywhere I looked.  Now it is getting more difficult to find them around.  Probably as a child I did not put much attention to other people’s mood, the people I looked at was happier or I was not trained to see a sad or depressed face yet.

“Those were other times” some would answer, “People then had fewer worries, these times are more difficult” is a common response nowadays.

I am not sure how to classify it, but yes, finding happy faces is not as easy for me lately.  Should I move to a different country? Well, not exactly, after travelling a lot I have found all kind of people everywhere, but thanks to the internet now you can talk to people on the other side of the planet in real time and realise that they are not having it easier there either. Continue reading

Leaving behind…

After a long period of hardships in your life. After all the hard test have been overpowered, the most difficult thing is to leave those bad feelings behind.

Getting over a bad experience does not mean that you have to pretend the harm never existed.  It just means it is no longer directing your life.

I know there are things you will not be able to forget, but at least take the power you once gave them to guide the course of your life for a while and, retake it once more.

I once thought I was not good enough and, that I did not deserve to be happy and prosperous and those thoughts governed my life for a long time.  After discovering that there was no external person nor influence to blame, I decided to take that power back and manage it myself to direct it to more fruitful endeavours. Continue reading

Escaping

Escaping is considered a part of our self-defence natural system. It is usually called the fight-or-flight response.

According to this theory the sympathetic nervous system reacts to danger with a hormonal secretion of different hormones, amines and neurotransmitters (Norepinephrine, epinephrine, estrogen, testosterone, cortisol and others). Thus priming the subject for fighting or fleeing.

In these modern times, usually we don´t need the fighting part of the equation, (with the exception of big cities and problematic zones of course). So the fleeing part is much more active in some people. Continue reading

Wherever you are

If you look around you right now, what do you see? Or better said, do you like what you see? Are you in the place where you wanted to be a year ago? Are the circumstances as you wished them to be back then?

If you answered yes to all those questions, congratulations, you have reached the goal. But if you answered no to any or all of them, then do not worry. You are a winner anyway because, believe it or not, you are where you are meant to be right now.

Probably your goals and dreams were different and you think you are not supposed to be where you are today. But that is not so. Continue reading

Don’t touch it

Being on computers since…. Well, a long time, yes even before Gopher existed (the grandfather of Google, yahoo, etc.) I know, I know I am an ancient soul. Even before the web and, when telnet was the most advanced “communication tool”, I have been observing the same pattern.

One of the first things I do when someone calls me hysterical at 3 am asking for help because their computer is broken is to ask them: What did you installed before that happened?

Usually their answer is “That a friend who know everything about computers, installed a program or modified something in the operating system”. Continue reading

Shake it off

There is nothing more difficult than trying to talk with someone who is angry. You ask them to listen to what you have to say, but their anger do not let them listen, really listen, they actually are not really interested in what you have to say, all they want to do is to take that awful feeling out of their system.

Even if they let you speak for a few seconds, they will immediately start talking back to you, they won’t listen to your reasons because they won’t keep that anger inside and need to get it out of them. Even if you are right they cannot see it. Continue reading

Help others and help yourself

I am so happy to know that now more and more people are deciding to help others so they can help themselves, thanks to several studies by different universities around the world, that show how important altruism is to enhance our own health.

Helping others had shown to raise our immune system and several illnesses have decreased their damage to the body or even disappeared in some cases, thanks to the boost to our natural defences caused by the feeling in helping others. Continue reading

Feeling for healing

In the old times expressing your emotions was some kind of taboo in most occidental societies. Especially for men, to show what your heart felt was considered as a lack of self-control and a sign of weakness.

“Men don’t cry” dictates the old saying and that brought actually more harm than benefits to the health of many men throughout history.

There are some cultures, even now, where having a cold and serious attitude is considered as good manners. Continue reading

Butterflies

I am sure you know this quote by H.D. Thoreau:  Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder…

Well I have found that applies not only to happiness but to any other thing we desperately need.

It seems that desperation injects some chaotic kind of energy that disperses everything we try to eagerly grasp.

Have you noticed that the more we NEED something, the more it tends to get away from us?

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