I remember one day, when I was a little child, that I was afraid of losing my toys, I felt very troubled with that thought. My mother asked me why I was so upset, and I told her I was afraid of growing up, because I loved playing with my toys and I had never saw an adult playing with toys. (I was so wrong then).
My mother smiled and told me that I would not need my toys as a grown up, and that Life always gives you something in return.
I could not understand that at that time, but I felt a little reassured to hear that.
Some years later when I was in my early adolescence, I felt the same “fear of loss” when a very close friend of mine moved abroad.
I thought the end of the world had arrived for me, and that nothing would be the same anymore, I would never meet anyone like him and nobody else would share my hobbies, tastes and adventures again. Continue reading →
I remember when I used to get very nervous when things got difficult and I was not able to see the end of the tunnel. When life´s colours were of the darkest nature and everything seemed to be doomed to failure. I felt lost and terrified.
It took me years of getting up and falling again, to try and fail and of learning and relearning the same lessons again and again, to realise that what comes next might not be as bad/terrible as it seems at first.
I used to give up as soon as things got difficult, as soon as I could not see the end of the road and when people told me that I was a lost case with no hope whatsoever. That is, I gave up constantly.
But one day you get tired of listening to what the others try to put into your mind, you stop believing and living the life others are trying to impose you and then you begin to shine with your own true colours. Continue reading →
When we look back into our past, we can see many periods when things looked impossible to bear. Tough situations when our hope seemed to be vanished but, in the bottom of our heart, hope was the only thing that kept us alive.
But once we overcome those situations and we look at things from a more relaxed perspective, we can see all the “advantages” of those painful times.
You learn to differentiate true friends from those who are only there pretending they are on your side but, the moment they know that you need their help, they look the other way leaving you alone. Continue reading →
Do you remember that time when you thought everything was lost and there was not possible solution for that problem?
When you were a child, there were times when things appear impossible to accomplish, things like holding your spoon properly, reaching for a toy in a tall drawer, solving an addition on the blackboard while all classmates were watching you, and so forth.
Probably there were times when you felt hesitant to tell your parents you had broken their favourite vase by accident while playing with your ball inside your home. You just could not think of a way out of that situation, right?
As you advanced in your life, the tests became more challenging and the situations seemed harder. But, when you looked back, you could see that you were always able to find a solution for every tribulation you found in your way, right? Continue reading →
When I was a child, I was always questioning why “bad” things existed.
Why God had invented “pain”, “fear”, “sadness” and so on?
We would be much happier if there was no such thing as fear, right? But then, I was explained that without fear I would not be alive today. If fear would not let me know my life is in danger when I approach a precipice, I would continue walking and probably fall to my death. But fear was there to stop me in time and keep me from jumping and getting killed or badly injured.
If that fear were not there to activate my instinct of conservation, then I would easily lose my hand when I cook or work with my electric saw. Or I could get easily killed by walking at night through dangerous places, etc.
I have heard often that deciding to begin something is a very difficult part of life. And yes, many times we waste a lot of time trying to determine what is the best course of action for our next step.
Deciding how to begin, could be very stressful but, what about starting all over again?
When you face something new you could be driven by enthusiasm, excitement, expectations and sometimes just plain ignorance of what is ahead of you.
But when you are facing something you have tried before and failed, your decisions could be loaded with anxiety to fail once more. Your past mistakes are huge ghosts difficult to overcome most times. They are there to remind you that you were there before and you did something wrong and therefore you could repeat that error once again. Continue reading →
Have you noticed that when facing new circumstances, new situations like a new job, moving to a new house, a new relationship, etc. We react in many different ways?
Fear is the first feeling to jump into our heart. And sometimes that fear is the main reason because we reject change so much.
And it is understandable since change could be a very traumatic experience at first.
I remember when I was a child to be afraid of jumping into a swimming pool because my memory of the first contact with water at a different temperature was not very enjoyable. It took me a long time to slowly crawl into the pool and it was not a very pleasant event.
Of course once this “traumatic” experience was passed it was almost impossible to take me out of the pool, but to “convince” me to dive into it first thing in the morning was a very difficult task. Continue reading →
It does not matter if your life has been the same for years and years.
It does not matter if they tell you that your life is secured. There is no such thing. Nothing in this universe is static, secured or fixed. Even rocks have millions of atoms inside them moving all the time.
You could be worried right now about a problem that seems unsurmountable, no open doors on sight and no plausible solutions at hand.
Nowadays, empty words are such a trend. Everybody has to say something all the time.
Even when they do not know what to say or they have no idea of what they are talking about.
If someone else is talking about something that happened to them the day before, people usually have an anecdote “more interesting”, “more frightening”, “more fabulous” to add.
If someone has some kind of illness or is going through a difficult time, there will always be that person who is going through something much more terrible than the others. As if demeaning other´s people problems and dilemmas was some kind of contest. Continue reading →
When I look at the things I have been through so far, I realise that most of my experience, those things I consider as valuable knowledge, are mostly the result of painful events.
I am able to walk now, because many times I fell down as I tried to take my first steps when I was a little child, I got up again and kept trying to imitate those people around me who were able to walk without a problem.
Every fall was painful, but that did not kept me from standing up again and keep trying. And now, thanks to that I can walk for hours and enjoy it. Continue reading →