What about you?

 

Have you noticed how hard you are with yourself?

You can admire an athlete who has accomplished an important mark in their speciality, you love to read about those people who have survived tough situations and after a terrible struggle they came out victorious.

You can feel respect for those people who have gone through humiliation, torture and all kinds of abuse, in order to be true to their convictions and ideas in addition to sacrificing all in their lives so they could reach their final destination covered in glory.

We all have stories among our family and friends of people who have gone through a real hell on Earth just to accomplish their deepest dreams.

There are now, plenty of reality shows and other programs about those people who have made it in extreme circumstances. And we love to watch them and feel admiration and respect for those brave people who, despite all odds, have been true to themselves, have lost everything for the good of others and are now seen as heroes. Continue reading

Control

Everybody is telling you that you need to control what you think because it is what you attract.  That brings upon us a big burden since we stress ourselves by making a big effort to avoid bad thoughts and feelings.

As human beings, we can experience all kinds of feelings, thoughts, and emotions.

We cannot limit our mind and soul to filter all the time our bad thoughts and feelings. That would not be beneficial, and in the end, it would bring us major health problems.

We do not need to completely avoid newspapers, TV news and the general gossiping around us.

The big difference comes when we do not allow those events to change our self-confidence. Continue reading

Do your part

 

I do not need to remind you of all the bad things happening every day in our planet. It is actually very difficult to turn your head to the other side to avoid the news.

There is a tendency in the media nowadays to highlight the bad news since they know that is what really sells. When they publish good news, people do not react the same way and they lose their profit.

The real problem is, that we accept that game, and get too inundated with those notes, and besides our personal everyday problems, we get even more stress with the tragedies in the world.

I know it is important to be informed of what is happening in the international and local arena. But in the process of finding a subject for the lunch time chat, we keep forgetting that we will have our part on this global stress wave. Continue reading

You are more than fine

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Advice on how to be a good business partner, a better spouse, friend, lover, student, boss and so on. Are everywhere.

You can see in most magazines and newspapers, a section dedicated to those subjects. Everybody has something to tell you on how to be a better “version of yourself”.

All this information, as everything else in life, might be very useful and, of course, we can learn a lot when we try to apply it to our daily life but, on the other hand, we need to be extremely vigilant of what we accept and what we take with a pinch of salt.

We are all individuals, we are all different (fortunately). We can try to do things differently in order to learn new ways to do things, even faster and better.

But when it comes to your own nature, your own personality, your own being. Things are very different. Continue reading

Reference points

It is very difficult to understand many concepts or even know where you are located right now without a reference point, which is a mark that allows you to compare or locate your position relative to external elements.

Our brain is a super computer that keeps comparing and evaluating everything around us all the time. Besides all the other things the brain has to do to keep us alive. So we actually are not aware of all the impressive processes our brain has to perform 24/7.

But as ironic as it sounds, Life gives us strange ways sometimes for us to compare and set new reference points in and learn our lessons, many times the hard way.

Sometimes you get tired of your own town, city, country, etc. So you decide to travel. Then you see new things, you meet new people with new customs, you try new food and so on. After a while, you begin to compare those new experiences with your home and then you begin to feel nostalgic and begin feeling the wish to go back. Continue reading

Get rid of it

When planning a spring cleaning or when moving to a new home, a very difficult thing to do is, deciding what to keep and what to get rid of.

Same happens when you want to clean your life or your contacts in your agenda.

Sometimes changing your social environment is the hardest of all.  Leaving a friendship behind is so difficult for some people, they feel bad for the other person and most times we haven’t seen that person in months or even years.

If that person has no interest to contact us, we can remove the “friend” tag from them without remorse. Continue reading

Doors

I am not a very social person. It is not that I do not love to meet new people, on the contrary, I love to meet new people but what I do not like is big crowds.

I like to focus on a small group of people so we can get to know each other well and I can give these new friends proper attention.  But when you have to meet many people at the same time is when I usually exit the stage left.

Do not get me wrong, I am not really antisocial, (well, not very much.) But I believe every person I meet is like a new window that allows you to see new scenery, new thoughts, new experiences and so on. Continue reading

Drama

They say we learnt to draw attention to ourselves when we were babies by crying, the louder we cried, the faster we received the attention.

This behaviour continues until our adulthood and as it still works for us sometimes, so we tend to sharpen our skills and become drama masters very soon.

Some people master the art of causing pity to others so they can get what they want.  Some learn how to blame others so they can be seen as victims of external factors/people and, I must admit some of them are real good at it. Continue reading

Contribute

People are nowadays living as fast as they can. It seems like a speed contest to see who the first to reach the highest level of stress is, in the shortest time possible.

They tell us to be passionate about our work, our activities and relationships, passionate about living our life to the fullest. That is brilliant, but I am seeing people who in order to feel they are passionate about their lives are entering a self-centred world of their own.

We do not need to be so radical about our actions.  We can be passionate and at the same time share that passion with others. Continue reading

 Wonderland

Last night I had a very bizarre dream. It was one of those dreams you try to escape from during the night but even if you keep waking up your mind sends you back as soon as you go back to sleep.

In the dream I was at home, but when I wanted to enter into my bedroom, I found the door closed. When I opened it I stepped into a different room, somewhere else, in this room there were different people I have never seen before.  Most of them looked very worried, like searching for the way out.

Some languages I was able to understand, other I have never heard before, but all of them were desperate trying to find the way out. Continue reading