I woke up feeling uneasy. I couldn´t understand why I was feeling that way, because there was no apparent reason for that mood.
At the beginning I thought I was feeling like that because of a bad dream I could not remember. But as the morning advanced, I understood that feeling was the result of a long chain of events that had finally collapsed upon my shoulders, causing this gloomy mood on me.
While trying to find the cause of this awful feeling, I realised that I was digging into all the negative events that appeared in my life in a while. As I was trying to find in each one of them the “real culprit” for my actual temper, my soul felt more and more depressed.
But the worst part was, that with every event I recalled, I felt more and more dejected. This was not helping me at all. Continue reading →
In a time when everybody is competing with everyone else, sometimes we find people who seem to have everything we haven’t got, people who know everything we ignore, and people who can do everything we are unable to do.
There are times when we feel inferior, suddenly you find yourself in a group of people with higher experience, knowledge and strength, and it is then when you begin to underestimate yourself. Comparisons are never good, they are totally unnecessary.
Most times it is a good practice to take advantage of that situation and learn as much as you can from them. That is a great way to get experience and increase your knowledge.
In my case, it took me some time to learn and appreciate the opportunity to be in a team with the best of the best. Even when I was the youngest and most inexperienced person in that group, I never allowed myself to feel intimidated by the others, and in the end, I can say for sure that it has been one of the best lessons In my life.
We react too fast to external events nowadays. I am talking about the way we take other people’s words.
You are walking quietly dowd the stree, minding your own business and suddenly someone pops up at the corner and bumps into you. That person began screaming at you as if it was your fault for being in their way and began saying awful things about you. People look at the scene without giving it importance and following their way, but for you it was a very traumatic event.
You cannot understand why that person is in such a rage when you did not even crash against them in purpose.
But you had to listen a whole list of adverbs and probably you even learnt some new ones, without understanding the real reason for it. Continue reading →
The merry voices of fishermen coming back from a hard day of being under the Sun for hours, was mixed with the voices of hundreds of people returning home in those huge boats called Vapur.
Everybody looked tired but happy, since their workday had finished and they were free to relax and forget about their problems for a while.
The coffee shops were full of men talking and laughing as if they were the happiest people on Earth. Everything looked in order everywhere you looked.
The Bosphorus Bridge was packed with cars going both directions, loaded with people wishing to get home as soon as possible so they could share a delicious meal with their loved ones. Continue reading →
If someone would tell you right now that you are more “in charge” of your happiness than you think, what would your answer be?
Of course, we all are now aware of our “responsibility and influence” on our own happiness and well-being. We have read a lot lately about how important our thoughts and feelings are to influence our end results.
But most times we need a reminder of this, because as soon as the things become difficult, we tend to forget our own power and immediately go back to “desperation mode”.
The XIV Dalai Lama once said: “If there is no solution to the problem then do not waste time worrying about it. If there is a solution to the problem then do not waste time worrying about it”.
And I have been many times there, where I thought things were very rough and I felt powerless and scared for the “magnitude” of the problems I had right in front of me. But after some time, with the help of others or even through my own merits, I finally realised that things were not as huge as they seemed. Continue reading →
“Being powerful is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you aren’t.”
― Margaret Thatcher
I have known good people who fight their whole life to reach a high place, whether in a company, the government, financial status, fame, etc.
Once they reach their goal and finally they have a little more power than usual, their personality suffer a dramatic shift and they no longer are the same person I once met.
Is it just me or nowadays we find “bosses” everywhere who are more concern on exercise their power on others than in getting good results for their company/institution/country etc.?
I have seen lately an increment in the number of “bosses” who are more interested in “showing off” how authoritarian they are, how their slaves, sorry I meant subalterns, fear and obey them and how “tough” they look giving orders all the time. Continue reading →
We have talked about the importance of giving our attention to the positive things in our life. The consequences of paying much attention to the bad events in the world around us, and our responsibility as co-creators of this reality.
But remember that attention must be accompanied by intention as well; otherwise it will lack a very important ingredient. Both elements will give power to our thoughts and desires.
Intention will give a defined purpose to our visualisations and will accelerate the results.
That charged attention will inject power to whatever is directed to, and remember that as soon as you direct that attention to a different subject that energy is shifted to the new target and disappears from the former. So try not to shift to a negative thought in order to maintain the same frequency and even increase its power. Continue reading →