Personal

 

We react too fast to external events nowadays. I am talking about the way we take other people’s words.

You are walking quietly dowd the stree, minding your own business and suddenly someone pops up at the corner and bumps into you. That person began screaming at you as if it was your fault for being in their way and began saying awful things about you.  People look at the scene without giving it importance and following their way, but for you it was a very traumatic event.

You cannot understand why that person is in such a rage when you did not even crash against them in purpose.

But you had to listen a whole list of adverbs and probably you even learnt some new ones, without understanding the real reason for it. Continue reading

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Problem creator

 

Every day we are exposed to lots of problems, with lots of variants, with lots solutions or decisions in front of us which lead to even more consequences.

Once we decide to deal with one of this “problems” we should find the root of it, and as a friend used to say: “Somebody must take the blame for this, and ain´t gonna be me.”

So, finding someone else to blame is not a difficult task. We usually do it immediately and automatically.

But then, finding a solution gets even more difficult. Linking the possible solution with our problem and expecting the one we blamed to take care of it, makes progress impossible.

But changing that mentality could benefit us immensely. Continue reading

Next morning…

 

The merry voices of fishermen coming back from a hard day of being under the Sun for hours, was mixed with the voices of hundreds of people returning home in those huge boats called Vapur.

Everybody looked tired but happy, since their workday had finished and they were free to relax and forget about their problems for a while.

The coffee shops were full of men talking and laughing as if they were the happiest people on Earth.  Everything looked in order everywhere you looked.

The Bosphorus Bridge was packed with cars going both directions, loaded with people wishing to get home as soon as possible so they could share a delicious meal with their loved ones. Continue reading

Your real power

If someone would tell you right now that you are more “in charge” of your happiness than you think, what would your answer be?

Of course, we all are now aware of our “responsibility and influence” on our own happiness and well-being.  We have read a lot lately about how important our thoughts and feelings are to influence our end results.

But most times we need a reminder of this, because as soon as the things become difficult, we tend to forget our own power and immediately go back to “desperation mode”.

The XIV Dalai Lama once said: “If there is no solution to the problem then do not waste time worrying about it. If there is a solution to the problem then do not waste time worrying about it”.

And I have been many times there, where I thought things were very rough and I felt powerless and scared for the “magnitude” of the problems I had right in front of me.  But after some time, with the help of others or even through my own merits, I finally realised that things were not as huge as they seemed. Continue reading

Jealousy

We have been educated to be self-centred in many ways.  Of course, you need to have your own things, for your personal use.  And certainly, we all want to have our loved ones near us.

But have you noticed how desperate we get when they go away, even for a little while?

I believe most of us have made some crazy things to get the attention of someone we are interested in or, to keep them by our side.

Jealousy is a big illness, it has caused big tragedies in the history of humanity. It transforms us and affects our whole body and soul.

But something I have noticed and discussed with many people from different backgrounds in life, is the futility of falling into its trap. Continue reading

Power

 

“Being powerful is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you aren’t.” 
― 
Margaret Thatcher

 

I have known good people who fight their whole life to reach a high place, whether in a company, the government, financial status, fame, etc.

Once they reach their goal and finally they have a little more power than usual, their personality suffer a dramatic shift and they no longer are the same person I once met.

Is it just me or nowadays we find “bosses” everywhere who are more concern on exercise their power on others than in getting good results for their company/institution/country etc.?

I have seen lately an increment in the number of “bosses” who are more interested in “showing off” how authoritarian they are, how their slaves, sorry I meant subalterns, fear and obey them and how “tough” they look giving orders all the time. Continue reading

Attention

 

We have talked about the importance of giving our attention to the positive things in our life. The consequences of paying much attention to the bad events in the world around us, and our responsibility as co-creators of this reality.

But remember that attention must be accompanied by intention as well; otherwise it will lack a very important ingredient.  Both elements will give power to our thoughts and desires.

Intention will give a defined purpose to our visualisations and will accelerate the results.

That charged attention will inject power to whatever is directed to, and remember that as soon as you direct that attention to a different subject that energy is shifted to the new target and disappears from the former. So try not to shift to a negative thought in order to maintain the same frequency and even increase its power. Continue reading

Spiritual fitness

Most of my friends are always looking for tips and guidance to be physically fit.  This is a common trend nowadays all over the world.

But despite walking a lot, eating only healthy food and taking care of myself as much as I can, sometimes I feel the weakest and more unattended part of my being is my inner self.

So, after doing some research, I have found some tips to increase your inner strength and feel more powerful every day.

Some of this tips might not apply in your case but try them anyway and see if you get better results. Continue reading

The hindrance

Most times we tend to take for granted the importance of hindrances in our paths.

Have you ever transited a long straight highway? I once had to drive for 9 hours from Saudi Arabia to Jordan on a long straight line of “nothingness”.

Most people would think this could be the safest way to travel, “no curves, no danger” right? Wrong.

It is exasperating to keep moving forward with no “twists and curves”. Continue reading

You define yourself

I remember one day when my daughter told me she was stupid.

I was very impressed by the way she said that. She was around 5 years old and after school she told me she was stupid in a very confident and serene voice. She was totally convinced that was a fact.

I asked her why she said that and, in the same tone, she answered: “My teacher told me I am stupid, my friends told me I am stupid, my cousins told me I am stupid therefore, I must be stupid”

“Did they tell you that today?” I asked.

“Yes, but they have told me that before, so I think they must be right” She answered with sadness. Continue reading