Consideration

“I must be getting old”, I thought.

When I was younger I remember to feel bad about those grumpy old men who spend their whole time complaining about everything and everyone.

My grandmother used to say: “When I was your age, people were polite, we never disrespect others”. “Your generation knows not what manners are” and so on and so forth.

And now, I have become that old grumpy man who cannot believe his eyes and ears anymore.  Continue reading

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It is not personal

I was observing an elderly man in the underground station who seem to be very upset, walking from one side to the other and talking to himself all the time.

A group of students were playing, shouting, and pushing one another near this man. Suddenly one of the students tripped and fell right in front of that man, making him fall, the old man obviously got really mad, yelling and accusing the young guy of attacking him. But the student instead of apologising and helping the old man to get on his feet again, he began answering back to him calling him blind and useless.

The elderly man of course, got even more furious and stood up trying to punch the student, most people saw the scene from this point since all the shouting had attracted their attention until that moment, but they didn’t see the beginning of the incident.

So when they saw a grown up man trying to hit a young lad, they began attacking him and this incident turned into a whole mess. Continue reading

Opposites

Why do bad things have to exist? If God is so “good” as they say, then why he allows the bad and the ugly to exist?

These are common questions we all hear all the time.

And have you ever imagined a world without opposites?

It could not exist at all actually.

We need a point of comparison to be able to “measure” things. How would you know if something is cold if there was not hot? Silly example I know I am just trying to make my point here. Continue reading

Doors

I am not a very social person. It is not that I do not love to meet new people, on the contrary, I love to meet new people but what I do not like is big crowds.

I like to focus on a small group of people so we can get to know each other well and I can give these new friends proper attention.  But when you have to meet many people at the same time is when I usually exit the stage left.

Do not get me wrong, I am not really antisocial, (well, not very much.) But I believe every person I meet is like a new window that allows you to see new scenery, new thoughts, new experiences and so on. Continue reading

Do not cheat anymore

After listening to some friends talking about their bitter experiences in the relationship world, followed by a thousand complains about their significant other’s behaviour. I remained silent.

Men say women nowadays cheat the most and so say women about men, but if you analyse this, there is a deeper concern that is usually overlooked in these cases.

They say that if you do not love yourself, then you cannot love anybody else. So in the same note, if you cheat on yourself, therefore you are more likely to cheat on anybody else.

My friends (females and males) complain about the lack of interest showed by their partners. But on the other side, none of them is showing any interest on themselves either.  Continue reading

Self-love

I grew up in a time when self-love was something bad, a sin.

It was wrongly labelled as egoism and many people tried to avoid it like the plague.

That avoidance had been the cause of many common problems we have to deal with nowadays.

“Do not think about yourself first”, “Being egotistical will send you straight to hell”, “If you weren´t so self-centred, this wouldn´t have happened to you”, “Nobody will love you if you don´t stop caring only about yourself”. These were common phrases I heard as I grew up. (Actually it wasn´t that long ago, I am talking of only two decades more or less) Continue reading

True Meaning

My Japanese friend was very upset and she asked me to listen to her (online) for a while about an incident she had with an old man the day before. She was very distressed.

Being a westerner, my mind flew too high and what at first I thought it was something more severe, luckily it happened to be, (and I am happy it was so) more of a generational conflict than a physical aggression.

He was a Japanese man who was born before Wold War II, he was amazed by the way young people nowadays are living an easier life with much more opportunities and comfort than he had in his time. Continue reading

Power

“Being powerful is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you aren’t.” 
― 
Margaret Thatcher

I have known good people who fight their whole life to reach a high place, whether in a company, the government, financial status, fame, etc.

Once they reach their goal and finally they have a little more power than usual, their personality suffer a dramatic shift and they no longer are the same person I once met.

Is it just me or nowadays we find “bosses” everywhere who are more concern on exercise their power on others than in getting good results for their company/institution/country etc? Continue reading

Wait

Most people I know hate waiting for anything.  Waiting is something so important that is amazing we all lack that skill, gift, knowledge or whatever you want to call it.

We are losing many values nowadays, but one I really am very fond of is punctuality. I consider than wasting other people’s time is one of the worst offences we can do to them. We have no idea what they had to go through in order to give us some of their time and, if we show up late or if we show no respect for their time, we have no respect for ourselves either.

Respecting time, ours and other people’s is a virtue. Continue reading

Respect?

I was waiting for a friend outside of a doctor’s office, patience is not one of my virtues (but working on it) and sitting in a waiting room is a difficult task for almost anyone.

But I had to wait for my friend to come out so I began to browse some old magazines that were spread on the table, mainly fashion magazines and I am really not very educated on fashion (working on it) but these were old magazines so I didn’t think I could learn something new in them.

I was still trying to find something to read among those old magazines when suddenly three children screaming and running like a herd of wild lost horses irrupted into the waiting room and landed on the table right in front of me.  They “swam” on the magazines and took several of them in their hands, included the one I had in my hand, and left the room.  One of the nurses ask their mother to return the magazines, since they belonged to the hospital and the mother just answered: “Nah, my children want them, so they will take them with them”. The nurse tried once more to explain their mother that those magazines were property of the hospital and couldn’t be taken away. But the Lady just ignored the nurse and hurriedly answered that she couldn’t say no to them and left.

The nurse stood there with her mouth wide open and just returned to the front desk mumbling things. I was shocked with the attitude of that lady and I realised so were everybody who had witnessed that.

Everything happened so fast nobody could do or say anything in that moment.

A Lady who were sitting beside me just said angrily: “If those were my children I would certainly teach them some manners” And the other people in the sitting room, agreed with the lady and began to talk about how they would have scolded those little rascals.

Then at that moment my friend came out and I just told him he had miss all the action, then I explained what had just happened.

He told me that his parents had been that way with him, they never taught him to respect anyone, due to their privileged social position and that had made him a real unbearable “jerk” (his own words).

Then he told me about one time he had ended up in jail because he had convinced his girlfriend to steal some electronic devices from a neighbour´s house. He know it was something very bad but he felt it was a good way to show his parents that he really had no respect for anybody, specially them.

He knew his father would use his economic power to get him out of jail and so he did. His girlfriend remained in jail for a while too and then he forgot about that incident.

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