You are not listening (Self reminder)

The truth is that I was not paying attention to what she was saying.  My mind was “connected” to my own personal network, and thoughts on different subjects were floating around like a bank of fish in the sea. Not even the traffic noise could interfere with my self-centred thoughts.

My friend was talking about trivial topics and I “assumed” I already knew where her conversation was leading to.  I was wrong. But my focus was on my own interests and talking about frivolous things was not part of my plans for the day.

I had no time to waste on unimportant talking and after all, I already knew everything she had to say. Or at least, that was what I thought.

She suddenly stopped, looked at me and said. “I think that would be a good solution, don´t you agree?”

I stood there feeling a cold shiver running down my spine, since she seemed to be waiting for an answer. Continue reading

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NO

Just two letters, one word. Simple, small and so frightening for so many.

Avoiding the use this little word has brought more problems, misunderstandings, sadness and regrets than you can imagine.

Maybe we feel guilty when we say it? Maybe we feel we are being rude to the other person? Maybe we feel obliged to avoid it? Who knows but despite its size and simplicity, it is one of the hardest words to say for many people around the world.

Maybe we were educated to see that little word as “harsh”? Are we afraid to offend the other party? Disappoint them? Continue reading