Be Resilient

 

While talking to a friend yesterday we were commenting about a friend who used to be a very solid and strong man most of his life, but the day his wife passed away, he began to lose his strength and wish to go on living.

It is always hard to lose a loved one, specially a very close person. And once we fall, getting on our feet once more is a daunting task for most of us.

After a lost, a failure, an accident, etc., things get very difficult and recovering our inner strength and peace seems almost impossible. And although time heals almost all wounds, there is always some things we can do to speed up our recovery. Continue reading

Darkness

 

Watching him eating so fast was a disgusting view.  It seemed as if he thought the world was coming to an end and he should finish his meal in advance.

I was just in the middle of the first course, when he was finishing his last. I was surprised, and at the same time a little displeased since he was not really enjoying his food.  I remained silent as he was excusing himself from the table and rushed out of the restaurant without even waiting for my answer.

I was in “judging mode” so, I thought he should learn to take more time for him to enjoy his food besides, it is unhealthy, and in some cases even dangerous to eat too fast.

I finished my meal at my own pace, and my other friend and I left the place talking about more relevant subjects. Continue reading

Do nothing

We are living very hectic times, everything must be quick and short. We like to see a movie instead of reading the book, we strive to find shortcuts, instead of taking the time to learn and practice to do things properly. We prefer to pay to get our clothes washed and ironed instead of taking the time to do it ourselves.

We are living our lives on the fast lane.

As a civilization, we are getting lazy on many things.

But on the other hand, we are getting obsessed with exercising. We are beginning to face serious health problems due to an excess of exercise training in ways our body was not design to do. But, fashion is fashion and you need to follow it, in order to feel you are “fitting in”, right?

Otherwise, what would our acquaintances say…? Continue reading

The Sanctuary

It took me half a day to reach the top of that mountain, a small Buddhist sanctuary stood there lonely in the middle of nothing.

The monk in charge of that small place smiled at me as soon as I reached the entrance and invited me to seat beside him on a wooden bench by the main door.

I looked exhausted and messy after the long climb. He looked radiant and happy. I told him about my great climbing adventure as if it was a once in a lifetime odyssey. He calmly told me he goes to town twice a day, so he does that “odyssey” four times every day.

I remained silent for a while. Continue reading

Procrastinating your well-being

“And when I have a new house, then I will be happy” this woman said to her companion in a loud voice as if she wanted the whole world to find out.

“Then I shall know that everything I have done was worth it, all the pain, all the hard work, my suffering.”  The lady who was sitting beside her looked at her in silence.

“Then I’ll be able to smile again and know everything will be alright. “she concluded in a triumphant tone.

The lady who was travelling with her asked her after a few seconds: “how long have you waited for that to happen?”

“Thirty years” the first lady answered. Continue reading

Your silence

 

Nowadays, empty words are such a trend. Everybody has to say something all the time.

Even when they do not know what to say or they have no idea of what they are talking about.

If someone else is talking about something that happened to them the day before, people usually have an anecdote “more interesting”, “more frightening”, “more fabulous” to add.

If someone has some kind of illness or is going through a difficult time, there will always be that person who is going through something much more terrible than the others. As if demeaning other´s people problems and dilemmas was some kind of contest. Continue reading

The truth?

“I just want to know the truth” I heard a by passer said with desperation. The person who was walking with him, softly answered:” But you already know the truth”. The first person acted surprised at first, but then he nodded accepting the comment and sadly looked away to the distance in silence.

Can we hide the truth so easily from ourselves? Are we really constantly avoiding to see it, even when it is “clearly “right in front of our eyes? Continue reading

Your deeds

I used to think that trophies and medals, awards and acknowledgements were a sign of success. And maybe in most cases this is so, but I was shocked to learn how easy is nowadays to buy or get one when you have enough cash in your wallet or you know the “right” people.

I do not usually accept those things because I feel I haven´t really earn them yet. I know so many people with years of experience, hard work, perseverance and especially great results to show and, most times, they are ignored. Continue reading

Your cover

They say you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover, nevertheless many authors (published or indie) struggle to design the best cover for their books. They know a cover will attract customers and “encourage” them to buy their books.

We do the same with humans. We know we shouldn’t judge them by their physical appearance yet, hard habits die hard and we still judge people by their “cover”.

A few days ago I cut my chin while shaving. The cut left an ugly scar that was easily seen by a distance. Of course that made me very self-conscious of my appearance and I think everybody notice my insecurity, despite my efforts to look confident.  I don’t know maybe it was just my appreciation. Continue reading

Just breath

Action is what creates our reality in this universe.  We need start “doing” in order to create, exist and advance. Passiveness is one of the most dangerous things in the path to our enlightenment.  Nevertheless, remember that we live in a balanced reality and we cannot keep always on the same side of the balance, we need to keep moving from one side to the other without falling into either extreme. That is the dance with the Universe. Continue reading