Replay (Note to self)

 

I remember when my daughters loved to spend hours watching their movies on DVD over and over again.

They actually watched the same movie two or three times in a row. They had a whole collection of different titles for children and they loved them all.

Each girl had their favourite, and those I had to watch with them sometimes until I could repeat every line of every character by heart.

Fortunately, once they had watched those movies a trillion times, new ones came out and then they moved to the new stories.

Nowadays they have grown up a little, and they no longer watch one movie several times in a day. (well… not very often anyway). Continue reading

Contending

 

I don´t know about you but, I am just tired of seeing the opinion wars on social networks, News media, newspapers, radio, TV and even in the neighbour´s coffee table.

One side says they know what they are talking about, the other side give their “reasons” and instead of people trying to reach a common conclusion, all I see is people trying to defeat the other side.

You can see people complaining about everything but they never give an alternative solution to that situation. Politicians around the world promising to end the unemployment, hunger, war and every human problem there is, if people vote for them, but they never say how they are going to comply, of course they do not have a clue, they just want their votes.

Social networks full of people criticising their governments, their friends and neighbours, but never giving feasible propositions.

And yes, sites like mine complaining about all of them. Continue reading

Solving problems in a “creative” way

“I am very good at solving everybody´s problems, I always find different options for others to follow, but I don´t understand what happens when I try to find my own solution, my mind gets blurry and I cannot think straight.” An old friend was telling me the other day.

“Maybe you are taking your own problems too “seriously” or to “viscerally” and that emotional charge is impeding you to see things clearly” I answered while understanding perfectly what he was talking about and feeling the guilt of having been there too many times already.

He looked at me with an astonished look on his eyes and quickly answered: “I am trying to be logical, I am looking at things as they are.”

“No, you are looking at the things as you are now. You are interpreting them through your own particular filters, that´s it.” I said closing my mouth really hard in order to keep more words from coming out from it. Continue reading

Embrace it

I have heard so many times that you have to embrace change and difficulties when they come, that I thought I had totally understood the idea. And probably I had, but as usual when it comes to apply our knowledge in real life, things become difficult.

We are all excellent for theory but when practice time arrives, the story is quite different, same thing when giving advice to others, we already know what to say to them in any situation THEY have to face, but when we are in the same predicament, all those answers and solutions vanish from our head. Continue reading

Answers II

Finding answers is a daunting task. Many people avoid it as much as possible, because as simple as it may sound, it could be one of the hardest things to do.

It might sound illogical, but you’d be surprised to know that most people, (you and I included) are searching for answers without defining the right question. There are many areas in our life where we are trying to find a sign, an answer, a solution. But if you ask yourself what the question you have to deal with is, most times you won’t have a clear idea. Continue reading

 Answers

They say “Everything has a solution but death” and often they reply: “And many times death is the solution”.

I know there are extreme cases like certain illnesses when much suffering is involved, and we cannot see other way out but death itself, when medicine in general cannot offer help any more. Continue reading

The confrontation

When you have to face adversity in its many forms, you have many opportunities to deal with different aspects of your problems.

Sometimes when your problems touch an area of your being that really matters to you, you have to confront the problem in a different way.  When our emotions are involved we tend to see things under a different light and our decisions are therefore compromised. Continue reading

A new cycle

A cycle is just a series of events that are regularly repeated in the same order. Just as the day precedes night and spring precedes summer and then comes autumn, then winter and the cycles begins once more. Actually there is no beginning nor ending.

The same happens with every kind of cycle. A school year, a relationship cycle, a work cycle and so on. Continue reading

Solutions

When I felt desperate or scared about solving a problem and I couldn’t see any “possible” solution at hand, I got really hysterical. My stress levels reached the ceiling and I felt lost and abandoned.

I never stopped to think about the effects those reactions would bring into the problem adding even more difficulties and hindering or retarding the solution. Continue reading