It is not you…

You have done your best to be kind, generous, friendly and understanding towards others.  You consider yourself a peaceful, relaxed and easy to talk to kind of person. You work on your inner self constantly and take care of your own body as well as you can.

Nevertheless, the people you care the most, keep misunderstanding your words, intentions and actions.

What then, are you doing wrong?

Probably nothing.  You are not doing things wrong in purpose.  Maybe the only problem you are causing yourself, is worrying too much for what others think about you.

You have no need to care too much for the opinion of others about yourself. As long as you are happy with what you are doing, with the way you are living your life, by reaching your goals and if you are not hurting anyone in the process, it is almost certain that you are not doing anything wrong to them. Continue reading

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Your main goal

In the past few weeks I have seen people who began with enthusiasm and lots of energy some endeavour, some project, or some dream they had for a long time and finally decided on taking the first steps.

And in the same way we drop our new year´s resolutions after facing some obstacles, they decided to abandon theirs too.

Some years ago, a friend of mine who was a fiction writer, after writing 5 books with not many sells to show in his pocket, he decided to quit.  He told me then that nobody was buying his books and he felt he was wasting his time by writing with no apparent results. Continue reading

This lesson I learnt today

Many years had passed since the last time I talked to him, but it was such a nice surprise to see him again. His look was as usual strong but more relaxed at the same time. It was difficult to say what the real difference was.

We had share many years in our childhood but our paths took different directions. But now that we had found each other again it was so nice to be able to talk about the good old times and share the new as well.

After sometime of listening to his story and then taking my turn to tell mine, we were so amazed of how different our lives had been and being now sharing this little moment here and now was even more amazing. Continue reading

Reappearance

I was so happy and surprised to see him. He had changed so much after all these years. He looks now in a better shape, healthier and much happier.

The truth is that I couldn’t have recognised him, but he recognised me and I was so happy that he did.

Few years ago, in that street, I used to see a homeless man who asked me for some coins “to have breakfast”. He said his name was Johnny and usually I gave him some change I had left, other times I shared some of the food I had with me. Continue reading

Embrace it

I have heard so many times that you have to embrace change and difficulties when they come, that I thought I had totally understood the idea. And probably I had, but as usual when it comes to apply our knowledge in real life, things become difficult.

We are all excellent for theory but when practice time arrives, the story is quite different, same thing when giving advice to others, we already know what to say to them in any situation THEY have to face, but when we are in the same predicament, all those answers and solutions vanish from our head. Continue reading

The confrontation

When you have to face adversity in its many forms, you have many opportunities to deal with different aspects of your problems.

Sometimes when your problems touch an area of your being that really matters to you, you have to confront the problem in a different way.  When our emotions are involved we tend to see things under a different light and our decisions are therefore compromised. Continue reading

Your story

Everybody you see has a story, it could be a sad story, a tragic story, a success story or a very simple story. But everybody has a story. A story filled with happy and sad moments, with funny occurrences and amazing miracles. With unbelievable success and hard lessons some learnt already, some not quite yet. But we all have our own baggage on our backs.

Each day you add a new page to your life’s book and so does everyone else, we all have our own stories to tell. Some choose to share them with others, but most don’t. Continue reading

Tolerance

You don’t need to push other people to keep your own pace.  Every person has his/her own timing and we cannot judge others just because they are doing things differently than ourselves.

We tend to judge everything from our own standards that is natural. But expecting that the whole world will be as “good” as we are, or that they will react, think and feel the same way as we do, is one of the main causes for our inner conflicts. Continue reading

You need to tell your story

There is a big difference between repeating your story over and over again to every person you meet, just to cause sympathy or empathy, and telling your story to a psychologist, your life coach or your friends at the pub,  or writing your story down in order to let it go.

There are people who cannot live without the drama, they feel that if they don’t have an incident full of drama to tell, their life is pretty boring.

We all have stories filled with intense emotions saved in our inner hard disk in the bottom of our soul. Continue reading