For many years I believed in the standard model of happiness, you know, what everybody tells you that you need to have, wear and live to be a real happy person.
Of course, I was never able to reach those standards, therefore I believed I was not a good person.
If I was not able to accomplish all those requirements, then I should be a loser. After all I was able to see many achievers around me. And if I was the only one who was living in mediocrity then something should be wrong with me.
Those where very difficult years for me.
I couldn’t understand quite well, how was it possible that many of my friends and acquaintances were leaving a perfect life, while I was really struggling to keep my pieces together. Continue reading →
Talking with some friends who have achieved many meaningful things in their lives, or at least, that is what most people around them think, I had some interesting epiphanies.
Viewed from my perspective, most of them have achieved wonderful things, one of them has written more than 30 books, some of them best-sellers in different countries, another one has a company that helps poor people in different countries, the other one has made many movies that were really famous worldwide, and he is still very respected in the film industry.
Yet, they do not see themselves as overachievers, despite the fact that most of us around them see them as role models to emulate.
When talking to them in a reunion, I was amazed to see that they actually see themselves as “regular” people, they always have someone “above” them that they admire and wish to imitate at all costs.
For instance, I asked my friend who is a very successful writer how did he start writing books? Was it difficult? Was it something he always wanted to do? Continue reading →
With these “Dialogs with my inner self” I always try to remind myself of those things I feel I am doing or not doing right, or where I need to clarify something. So if you have read some of these “notes to myself” you can see I still need to clarify a LOT in my head.
I have seen lately that I am doing too many things every day and, a sense of urgency to finish everything I start, is beginning to put some pressure on my shoulders that I don’t really need now.
A little of pressure, an end-line and a little of debt might be even healthy for us sometimes, since they will “force” us to move from our present position, to take the next step towards our goals. But something I have learnt from very successful people and I would like to emulate sometimes is to be clear and determined in my everyday activities.
Being able to choose how you will spend most of your time is a wonderful way to start everyday, even holidays. If you can be selective with your activities and chose the ones that will bring you the best results towards your goals, then you will feel happier with yourself and will become more “successful”. Continue reading →
I know we all talk “bad” about ourselves from time to time: “I am so stupid!”, “how silly of me…”,” Man! I am so clumsy.” And so on.
Sometimes without even realising we keep “insulting” ourselves the whole day. And although our conscious mind wouldn´t pay much attention on it, our subconscious mind does.
Thus creating our “hidden” programming.
A friend of mine (who once was my math teacher as well) was an excellent tennis player. He trained after his classes 5 or 6 hours every day.
But out of a “fake modesty” he began to underestimate his own abilities when talking to other people. He told me he felt bad talking in a good way about his game. He didn’t want to sound boastful or arrogant. So he began to talk “bad” about his skills. Continue reading →
They told me this was a small event, just a few people who were interested in that old movement called “The New Thought”. It would be a simple talk exposing some of my ideas and theories on quantum mechanics and the process of thought in the brain. Nothing too elaborated.
I felt very confident since a talk with a small group is something you can easily turn into a “chat among friends.” Nothing very complex to do.
As soon as I saw the back of the building where this reunion was taking place something strange began lurking in the back of my mind. This looked more like the backstage of an old theatre, but well, how could I know the way things were handled here, it was a very different country on the other side of the planet and customs were very different, so I didn´t ask anything to my hosts. Continue reading →
It is amazing when you compare the differences between several concepts that I thought were a little more “standardise” like “success”, “beauty”, “good”, “evil” and so on.
For some strange reason I always thought we all shared the same concepts on many subjects, like the notion of “good” for instance. It was years later when having to interact with people from different countries as a visitor and observer, that I had my first “cultural shock”.
So maybe the ideas are not that different, but our interpretations are. What my community considers a crime, a different culture considers it as something normal, even logical. Continue reading →