There are days when it takes more strength to get up from bed than others.
They say that when something scares you a little is a good sign for you to go on and do it, but in this world of bad news, excess of stress, lack of natural food and an overextended pessimism makes us very difficult to gather that strength.
That makes us search for something even more difficult to find nowadays: Those people who challenge you to be better, motivate you and impulse you to act.
Most people are just too overwhelmed with all the negative information we receive from everywhere. So, they do not have time to feel better themselves and let alone spreading motivational words around them. Continue reading →
I had no idea how to repair a scratch on the paint of a metallic surface and I was going mad trying to find some video online that showed me how to do it.
I tried some suggestions but they were not what I needed. There are not many answers online for my particular problem.
So, I was about to quit and accept to live with that scratch when, while walking in a busy street, I saw an old man creating real masterpieces on metallic plates with his fingers and a few other handmade tools.
I stood there for a few minutes contemplating in awe the ability of that man and the wonderful paintings he was creating in a few minutes, right before an admired crowd.
After a while, he began to pick up his belongings and his unsold paintings, so I decided to approach him and ask for his advice on how to solve my problem. Continue reading →
One of the most difficult things I have faced, is when I have tried to apply my own theory in my own life.
We think we are so “prepared” and “wise”, that we can give counsel to everyone who come and tell us their problems. But if we are the ones in that situation, applying the same “advices” to our own particular case, it is not as easy to follow as when we tell others what to do with their lives to reach happiness and success.
But what if you pretend for a while that you are an external “adviser” when you are in trouble or in doubt? What would you tell somebody else? Would you follow that advice? Can you “walk your talk”? Continue reading →
Few years ago I was imparting a self-defence class in a community centre for women (most of them were rape victims). I was talking about the importance of quickly neutralising the opponent to allow them to escape as soon as possible and/or ask for help depending on the circumstances.
In order to show a technique to keep a stranger at a certain distance and defend themselves from an attack, I asked a tinny woman to help me demonstrate the technique to the other students.
At first, she hesitated and timidly approached. She didn’t dare to look at me and kept her eyes all the time on the floor. Continue reading →
When you set your expectations on someone or something, you are at risk to be disappointed. It is a part of life and it hurts very much, but believe me, it hurts even more when you are the one who is disappointing a loved one.
I know I have done that many times, not willingly of course, but I have disappointed people who had believed in me and, on the other side, I have been disappointed too.
It took me a while to realise that I was living in a state of constant mistrust. I was taught to be careful with the people around me: “don’t talk to strangers” they told me.
I was taught to mistrust outcomes, “don’t expect the best and you won’t be disappointed”. I was also taught to trust myself only and not to expect anything from other people so “they wouldn’t let me down.”
In fact as I grew up I learnt to mistrust almost everything and everyone. Police, news, politicians, doctors, circumstances, the weather, religions and specially the future. Continue reading →
A typical question I am asked all the time is if you could avoid bad things to happen to you and your loved ones through visualisation.
We can alter our results, our own perception of reality, our bad habits and ideas and create all the good things we need in our life. But we are not living alone in this plane. We are not the only creators of this universe. Continue reading →
It is strange how good we are to find all the reasons why we won’t be able to achieve certain goal, or why we are not good enough to reach a certain level of success, or even worst, why we don’t deserve to be happy, healthy, wealthy, etc.
In part, is the general programming we all receive, the way we compare ourselves with the false images we see in others and the harmful fake modesty that leads us to a low esteem. Continue reading →