Sometimes we wish other people would know what we know, and they could do what we do and be as good as we are at doing some things.
We get frustrated when our children or those people close to us cannot see the world the same way we do. We think that if only they could see things from our own perspective, things would be so much easier for them.
It is so difficult sometimes trying to explain some situations when we see them from the outside. But for the people “inside” things look complex and overwhelming. And of course, we cannot understand why they cannot see things that are so “obvious” to us.
But in these cases, we are guilty as well, we rarely stop to think than the others have a very different learning path then our own. They do need to go through the difficulties and “problems” they are facing now in order to grow and become wiser. In fact, you are doing the same thing right now, that is why we are all here. Continue reading →
It does not matter if your life has been the same for years and years.
It does not matter if they tell you that your life is secured. There is no such thing. Nothing in this universe is static, secured or fixed. Even rocks have millions of atoms inside them moving all the time.
You could be worried right now about a problem that seems unsurmountable, no open doors on sight and no plausible solutions at hand.
When I have these dialogues with my inner self, I tend to “justify” many of the mistakes my subconscious mind points out to me. But as I cannot fool myself so easily, very often I end up “burnt and crashed” but a little bit wiser and stronger.
Sometimes I kept dreaming on things that seemed so “impossible” or too “far away” from me to reach them but that “impossibility” or “distance” made my mind doubt I could ever reach them. I am sure you have been there as well. We all have.
So when I begin to feel that way now what I usually do is rewind my memory tape and push play again so I can see how things “seemed” in the past and how now I am enjoying what in those times looked so far away from my reach and/or impossible to obtain at that time.
There is nothing more frustrating than entertaining the feeling of impossibility to reach a dream. Continue reading →
“Yes, I have made a lot of mistakes, I have taken very bad decisions and I am still trying to figure out how to set things right in many aspects of my life, but I don’t think I have failed. I did everything I could in the way I thought it was right, I tried my best to do the things in the only way I knew and yes, I know, I have harmed people I love at times, I have even harmed people I don’t know directly but all I can say is that I didn’t do anything on purpose. I never meant to do anything wrong to anyone in anyway.” I told my friend while we walked in the park. Continue reading →