If someone would tell you right now that you are more “in charge” of your happiness than you think, what would your answer be?
Of course, we all are now aware of our “responsibility and influence” on our own happiness and well-being. We have read a lot lately about how important our thoughts and feelings are to influence our end results.
But most times we need a reminder of this, because as soon as the things become difficult, we tend to forget our own power and immediately go back to “desperation mode”.
The XIV Dalai Lama once said: “If there is no solution to the problem then do not waste time worrying about it. If there is a solution to the problem then do not waste time worrying about it”.
And I have been many times there, where I thought things were very rough and I felt powerless and scared for the “magnitude” of the problems I had right in front of me. But after some time, with the help of others or even through my own merits, I finally realised that things were not as huge as they seemed. Continue reading →
I still have problems defining when I have to stop trying to do things. On one side my mind tells me to “make things happen” and the other side says “do not force things and go with the flow”. And that is like trying to drive with one foot on the accelerator and the other on the brake at the same time.
I know, sometimes life asks you to go beyond your normal efforts in order to achieve more meaningful things and sometimes you need to allow things to freely flow because with your pressure you are only slowing things down.
It does not matter if your life has been the same for years and years.
It does not matter if they tell you that your life is secured. There is no such thing. Nothing in this universe is static, secured or fixed. Even rocks have millions of atoms inside them moving all the time.
You could be worried right now about a problem that seems unsurmountable, no open doors on sight and no plausible solutions at hand.
Have you notice how we tend to worry like crazy, have the blackest thoughts, imagine the worst scenarios, overstress our body and lose sleep and hunger like crazy?
And after all that, things work out in bizarre ways in the end.
We feel so relieved after the things were not as bad as we imagined that we forget to look back and see all those nasty details that robbed us from our health and peace of mind.
So when next test arrives, will you once again go through the same process of worrying, losing sleep and appetite and damage our body as much as we can.
When are you going to learn that life has uncommon ways to fix things? When are you going to learn that you are more than capable to handle the things that are in front of you right now? Otherwise, they wouldn’t be there. Continue reading →
He usually looked so calmed and relaxed, I wondered sometimes if he ever got angry or nervous about something.
One day I heard he was going through a severe legal problem involving a money issue with his relatives. When I went to visit him he looked as usual, calmed and relaxed, despite the problems he was facing going to courts and having to deal with attorneys all the time.
At first I didn’t dare to ask him how he was feeling, since his attitude was clear enough as to see he was doing quite well. Continue reading →
The day began as usual in that little community, everybody were beginning their daily chores and there was an atmosphere of calmness and boredom among the inhabitants.
Only one of the elders felt a little nervous, he didn’t know why, but something was wrong. Nobody paid any attention to his comments, after all, he was just too old.
Suddenly the earth began to vibrate, all around this little village was shaking and after a few seconds everything turned black, like a sudden total Sun eclipse, but this was faster and totally unexpected. Continue reading →
I was reading about a study from Harvard University where they describe the importance of being focused on the present moment for improving our happiness.
We are always encouraged to let our mind wander in order to improve our creativity. There is nothing most wonderful than day dreaming and let our thoughts flow. But according to this study, the more our mind wanders away from the present moment, the unhappier we become. Continue reading →
I think one of the hardest exercises for our belief system is when we have to let go of our need to have control of every situation in our life and allow our heart to trust that things will be alright.
You know what I mean, things begin to get nasty, then you worry and get angry, then your mental vibration begins to create more “problems” and uncomfortable situations and then you get more of those, then you get more worried and more angry and the cycle repeats, only this time things are darker than before. Continue reading →
I was wondering how would I feel If I had everything I needed right now.
Well you’d feel really happy and satisfied, that would be the obvious answer and yes, I agree, I could feel happy and relaxed, indeed, but would I stop right there?
If you could have everything you wished for right now, would you just stop doing anything else? Would you spend you days laying on a couch watching television and nothing else would matter to you any more? After all, you would have everything you ever wanted. Continue reading →