I cannot learn for you

For you who want to learn everything right now.

Sometimes we wish other people would know what we know, and they could do what we do and be as good as we are at doing some things.

We get frustrated when our children or those people close to us cannot see the world the same way we do.  We think that if only they could see things from our own perspective, things would be so much easier for them.

It is so difficult sometimes trying to explain some situations when we see them from the outside.  But for the people “inside” things look complex and overwhelming.  And of course, we cannot understand why they cannot see things that are so “obvious” to us.

But in these cases, we are guilty as well, we rarely stop to think than the others have a very different learning path then our own.  They do need to go through the difficulties and “problems” they are facing now in order to grow and become wiser.  In fact, you are doing the same thing right now, that is why we are all here.          Continue reading

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Your advantage

 

Talking with some friends who have achieved many meaningful things in their lives, or at least, that is what most people around them think, I had some interesting epiphanies.

Viewed from my perspective, most of them have achieved wonderful things, one of them has written more than 30 books, some of them best-sellers in different countries, another one has a company that helps poor people in different countries, the other one has made many movies that were really famous worldwide, and he is still very respected in the film industry.

Yet, they do not see themselves as overachievers,  despite the fact that most of us around them see them as role models to emulate.

When talking to them in a reunion, I was amazed to see that they actually see themselves as “regular” people, they always have someone “above” them that they admire and wish to imitate at all costs.

For instance, I asked my friend who is a very successful writer how did he start writing books? Was it difficult? Was it something he always wanted to do? Continue reading

Timeless

One of the most wonderful things about literature is that it could be timeless.

You can write a chronicle right now about events that took place thousands of years ago, you can start a story in an undetermined era and create a delightful narrative about an ageless period.

I have read books with teachings written centuries ago and its concepts are still valid and relevant nowadays. You can learn from them as if they had been written this morning and applying that wisdom to your daily life is as suitable as if you were living back then. Continue reading

Do you really want that?

 

She was still alive.

She had just finished her pulmonary emphysema treatment. She had barely come out alive of this whole situation, but at least, she was alive.

The last few months had been very difficult for her and her family. They were all exhausted and all they wanted was return to their daily lives as usual.

They wanted to put all that behind. Forget about it and pretend that it never happened with a smile on their faces.

Of course, the doctors forbid her to even look at a cigarette ever again!

And, in the beginning, she said she would do everything in her power to regain her health and her life once more.

But, in her heart, things were very different.  Continue reading

Hurray!

One of the things I admire the most of some of my elderly friends is their optimism and cheerful disposition.

They are always happy and despite their own personal problems, they always have a smile on their faces, that is why they are still alive I think.

I did some voluntary work in London in elderly houses a few years ago. One day I was talking with one of my friends there and I was telling him about a problem that looked unsurmountable to me at the time. I could not see a way out of that situation and I felt everything was lost for me.

When I finished telling my friend about my problem, he began laughing loudly while looking at me amusingly.  Continue reading

The crowd

 

Every day I am seeing more and more examples of the influence of the masses on very valuable people.

Thinking by yourself is something you can do very easily, but sharing your thoughts and opinions with others is what turns out to be very difficult nowadays.

I was talking the other day with some friends, and two of them began talking about international politics, one of them, the one who was most passionate about his views, was doing most of the talking, my other friend just agreed with everything the other said.

I know him well, so I couldn’t understand why he was agreeing with points of view completely opposite to his own. Continue reading

Your gift to the universe

We usually receive gifts on Christmas, our birthday, and some other special occasions.

Some of us are used to wake up in the morning under a roof, with nice blankets and most times a good breakfast waiting for us on the table. We see it so natural, that we forget to be grateful for all those blessings we receive every day.

There are some people who are open and willing to receive, but there are others who feel they do not deserve it.

In some cases, not being “open to receive” is as bad as not being willing to share your good with others. Continue reading

Before…

 

There is a nice little town in South Devon, England called Coffinswell.

I like to go there from time to time to Court Barton, a manor house of the 16th Century, the south part of this manor house was used as a court house for some time, but it still looks as beautiful as ever.

Recently I was walking through the lanes and tracks leading to the neighbouring hamlet of Daccombe, when I saw a man doing some gardening work in the front of Court Baron.

I greeted him cheerfully and he answered in the same way. But he kept looking intensely to the grass in front of him, like waiting for an answer.

I remained in silence for a while and as he appeared to be reaching too deep into his thoughts, I prepared to continue my promenade. Continue reading

External voices

 

One of the main mistakes we make when we are trying to start a new adventure in life, is paying more attention to the external voices than to our heart.

It is true that sometimes even our inner voice, loves to paint a black panorama in front of our eyes, but when we focus too much heed on the negativity in it, things are doomed to go wrong.

Do you remember how many times people, even your loved ones gave you more than a thousand “reasons” why things wouldn’t work out, and in the end, everything went even better then you had imagined?

I am not saying here then asking for advice is a bad thing or a bad idea, we are supposed to learn from the experience of others, but unfortunately most times we ask for advice to people who have never achieve anything in the particular field that we are trying to explore  Continue reading