I used to enjoy observing in silence all the treasures a friend had in his studio. The walls were covered by photos, trophies, awards and things of that kind.
Throughout his life he had met and befriended many celebrities from different parts of the world and some of them had been key elements in human history.
One day, as I discovered more hidden “treasures” as autographed books, honours and acknowledgements. My friend arrived and sat at his desk. He amusingly observed as I enjoyed myself watching his amazing collection of memories.
To him these were witnesses of his own story. His achievements, failures, good and bad times, but always a memory of the lesson learnt was present in each object therein.
Every time he showed his “trophy room” to other people, he talked about the lesson learned, the experienced lived and the changes that event brought to his life. Never showed off his “trophies” to boast or to humiliate others. On the contrary, he had always tried to motivate them to achieve wonderful things so they could too have a room full of memories and experiences to share with the world.
He had learnt to live and be happy and help others to find their happiness as well, never to try to impress anyone else. Continue reading
The other day while taking a long walk in the park, I was pondering about why sometimes we feel uncomfortable with the way our life is going.
I remember thinking that as long as I was feeling fine, my life and everything around me were supposed to be alright and I should not move anything whatsoever to change it.
I am not saying, that you should feel uneasy with your life all the time, that is not the real reason to be here. But once you notice that “nothing changes” that things are just the same, as usual, and you begin to feel that you are not “advancing” in your life path, then it is time to listen to that little voice in your head that is trying to tell you something very important.
Something that perhaps you are pretending to ignore. Continue reading
After an amazing storm I was on my way to see a client trying to find shortcuts along the way to arrive on time.
I decided to go through a park I have never visited before but, it was on the way to my client’s office. I was walking very fast and suddenly, after a curve, I found myself in front of a huge puddle.
At first I thought trying to jump over it or, slowly walk through it, but the image of a video of a car sinking in an apparently innocent puddle came to my mind. This video showed a car crossing a seemingly inoffensive puddle in a street of a big city, but it seems it was covering a huge “gap”, the car unknowingly kept advancing and suddenly disappeared into the “puddle”.
The video did not show whether the driver was able to come out alive from there, but the image remained very clear in my mind. Continue reading
We are hearing very often about detachment lately. Detachment to material things, to places, to people etc.
For most people, it is easier to detach themselves from individuals, food or places than to be the “victim” of the detachment.
You can train your mind to separate from a place, from a certain food or habit. A little more difficult for many is to “avoid” toxic people who are not helping us with our growth process.
Especially when the other people feel you are avoiding them for the wrong reasons. They might think that you are getting too “picky” or that you are being too selfish or that you simply do not care anymore for them.
But please do not fall into that game this time. Continue reading
Sometimes we look up at other people thinking their lives are really great and worth imitating. We see just what they allow us, great houses, cars, expensive gadgets, etc.
We believe they have a wonderful life and we wish we could be as lucky as they are.
We see people we call achievers and read about their great success in business, sports, politics etc. We would love to do things as good as they do.
We tend to idealise those people and really believe that we are very far from those overachievers. We wouldn’t dream to compare with them and sometimes we even feel happy if we could do a quarter of what they can do. And actually that is the real problem.
When we compare with others we are actually setting our threshold very low. We are limiting our true capabilities and beliefs since we have been taught to believe those people are superior to us. Continue reading
When I was a child I hated when the rain ruined my afternoon. I was not allowed to go out and play while raining.
So, during the rainy season I was doomed to stay at home watching TV or reading, that was not a bad thing since I fell in love with many wonderful books back then.
But I remember many times watching great plans with friends being cancelled because of the rain.
That made me feel very frustrated and sometimes even angry with Mother Nature.
Years had to pass before I was able to really appreciate the blessings of a good storm and the cleansing and purifying effects on the whole planet.
She was a sweet and lovely girl. She grew up in a traditional family and her childhood was a happy one.
As she grew up people and events turn her down and she became resentful and “tougher”. She began talking like her male friends and changed her stylish wardrobe for a more masculine looking. Even her movements and vocabulary became more aggressive and rough.
Finally one day I dared to ask her why she decided to make those changes in her personality, since she was such a nice young lady and now she was rougher than some gang members I know. Continue reading
I have been complaining with my inner self lately very often.
I have spotted myself complaining too much in the last days, and I have discovered that is bringing me very negative results.
I do not know if I am plummeting into the last trend sport: whining, or I am about to change direction in my life and that is why I have been so rebellious lately.
I think overthinking is doing its job here, after all, it is easier to complain about a situation than doing something to correct it.
After all I can justify myself by saying that everywhere you go, you will find someone groaning about something.
“I hate my job”, “I am underpaid”, “I am a failure”, “I cannot do anything right”, “Nobody loves me”, “Nobody cares about me”, etc. Continue reading
I remember one day, when I was a little child, that I was afraid of losing my toys, I felt very troubled with that thought. My mother asked me why I was so upset, and I told her I was afraid of growing up, because I loved playing with my toys and I had never saw an adult playing with toys. (I was so wrong then).
My mother smiled and told me that I would not need my toys as a grown up, and that Life always gives you something in return.
I could not understand that at that time, but I felt a little reassured to hear that.
Some years later when I was in my early adolescence, I felt the same “fear of loss” when a very close friend of mine moved abroad.
I thought the end of the world had arrived for me, and that nothing would be the same anymore, I would never meet anyone like him and nobody else would share my hobbies, tastes and adventures again. Continue reading
Have you ever fell down or felt sad or depressed after a difficult event and a close friend or family member slaps your back and asked to cheer up or just said: “Come on, get over it, just be happy”?
Then they recommended you a good book or a “guided meditation” so you could “get out of the hole” faster?
Of course you are trying to understand what happened, you are trying to heal your wounds and of course you wish you could go above to situation and feel good once more, but you have your own rhythm to do it, right?
I am not saying they are bad, insensitive, cold people, they surely love you and want you to be alright and on your feet once more very soon. They do not understand your inner needs and situation, so it is important for you to learn and defend your right to heal at your own speed. Continue reading