The dichotomy of silence

 

When you see someone suffering, and there is nothing you can do to help them out of their misery, most times you will try to comfort them with consoling words.

In those cases, the right words are difficult to find, and many times we end up saying the wrong ones even when our intention was good.

We have talked many times about the advantages and blessings of silence, how important it is to keep quiet when there is risk to hurt someone else.

But as everything else in this Life, there are always two sides for everything and falling in its extremes is extremely easy.

Too much of anything can do a lot of harm. Continue reading

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Alone

 

There is lately a widely extended fear to be alone.

I know many people who actually prefer to be in a destructive relationship than being on their own.

This fear has grown so much in our society, that is now considered as a very serious illness known by many different names: monophobia, autophobia, Isola phobia, among others.

Although there are different levels in these phobias. Most people present one or more symptoms at the same time. Continue reading

Goodness

 

I’ve been listening lately to many people complaining about the rest of the world.

I have witnessed how people are organizing more protests against injustice, bad governments, unfair treatment against women children and animals all over the world, how more organizations are marching throughout the main avenues of the great capitals of the world.

People everywhere are mad due to those and many other things. They are like untrained Soldiers ready to die and kill in order to stop the violence.

That sounds like an interesting paradox don’t you think? Continue reading

Your power

 

In a time when everybody is competing with everyone else, sometimes we find people who seem to have everything we haven’t got, people who know everything we ignore, and people who can do everything we are unable to do.

There are times when we feel inferior, suddenly you find yourself in a group of people with higher experience, knowledge and strength, and it is then when you begin to underestimate yourself. Comparisons are never good, they are totally unnecessary.

Most times it is a good practice to take advantage of that situation and learn as much as you can from them. That is a great way to get experience and increase your knowledge.

In my case, it took me some time to learn and appreciate the opportunity to be in a team with the best of the best. Even when I was the youngest and most inexperienced person in that group, I never allowed myself to feel intimidated by the others, and in the end, I can say for sure that it has been one of the best lessons In my life.

I learned a very important lesson: “Being you, is your real power.” Continue reading

Challenge

 

I was sure I knew that subject by heart.

I thought I had no need to review my books once more, but when my brain kept struggling to find the answers to that question, I realised that I needed to study the lesson once more.

As a child I always hated exams, specially surprise tests.

But after finishing school, I dreaded Life’s tests.

When an unexpected situation forced me to dust off my knowledge without previous planning, I got scared and many times that lead me to failure. Continue reading

What comes next…

 

I remember when I used to get very nervous when things got difficult and I was not able to see the end of the tunnel.  When life´s colours were of the darkest nature and everything seemed to be doomed to failure. I felt lost and terrified.

It took me years of getting up and falling again, to try and fail and of learning and relearning the same lessons again and again, to realise that what comes next might not be as bad/terrible as it seems at first.

I used to give up as soon as things got difficult, as soon as I could not see the end of the road and when people told me that I was a lost case with no hope whatsoever.  That is, I gave up constantly.

But one day you get tired of listening to what the others try to put into your mind, you stop believing and living the life others are trying to impose you and then you begin to shine with your own true colours. Continue reading

Your pain

When we look back into our past, we can see many periods when things looked impossible to bear.  Tough situations when our hope seemed to be vanished but, in the bottom of our heart, hope was the only thing that kept us alive.

But once we overcome those situations and we look at things from a more relaxed perspective, we can see all the “advantages” of those painful times.

You learn to differentiate true friends from those who are only there pretending they are on your side but, the moment they know that you need their help, they look the other way leaving you alone. Continue reading

Stay out

 

Insomnia is a very harmful illness that is becoming very common these days.

Recent studies are reaffirming what Chinese medicine said centuries ago: Sleeping after midnight is not as beneficial as going to bed earlier.  The human body has an internal natural clock that regulates different functions of our organism.

Going to sleep around nine or ten pm will give us a better rest and definitely will help your body to recover faster, according to these studies.

But when your mind is awake in the middle of the night and for some reason you cannot go back to sleep immediately, your mind begins to wander, your problems begin to look bigger and scarier than they really are.

And you know very well, what happens when you begin to think about your problems at the wee hours of the night. Continue reading

The end of a cycle?

After a long time of living a routine that has almost become a part of our nature, one of the hardest things is admitting that we need to take a new road.

We have got different options:

  • To continue as we have done so far, although in some cases, It might be impossible since the circumstances have changed.
  • Take a deep breath and take the first step into the unknown so we can explore new paths.
  • Do nothing whatsoever.

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Totally here…

 

They say you cannot be in two places at the same time.  That is a law of physics.

But nowadays most people are in several places at the same time, everywhere, but in the place they are supposed to be.

Have you ever talk to a person who seems to be listen to you very attentively, just to realise few minutes later that they were thinking something else and their attention was somewhere else? Aha! But you have done the same to others as well so you are not off the hook!

Sometimes I wonder where did the time go when a day ends and it takes me for surprise.

Actually, I do not think it is fair! Continue reading